POPSUGAR Love Poll Would you drink around a friend who is a recovering alcoholic? by DearSugar 9/04/06 0 Shares Like us on Facebook Sign up for our daily newsletter > Follow us on Pinterest If you had a buddy who at one point in time was like Nick Cage in Leaving Las Vegas, would you hit the sauce around them? Read More Dear PollLove And Sex POPSUGAR, the #1 independent media and technology company for women. Where more than 75 million women go for original, inspirational content that feeds their passions and interests. Get Inspired With Our Living Newsletter Personalize Love and Sex Tech Vegetarian DIY Food Home Sign up with facebook or By signing up, I agree to the Terms and to receive emails from POPSUGAR. veronicaraye 7 years ---that would be horrible! wynter 9 years I almost never drink so it wouldn't bother me not to drink in front of them! blOndiE7 9 years I wouldnt, I think that would be rude!! lexaboo 9 years Drinking around them would almost help, honestly. They definetly need to get used to it, and a friend wouldn't let them drink. And I love drinking and wouldn't want to stop just because a friend quit. But I would watch my intake and try not to throw it in their face. sexyeyes 9 years All my friends drink but they weren't alcoholics and as far as someone being one I don't think I would stop drinking just b/c that person isn't anymore. You have to have self control. Ophelia2 9 years Right on Mar...I concur!! Revolution People. Revolution Faye16 9 years I don't drink at all anyway, so there. t0xxic 9 years in the begining i thnk it would be insensitve but u cant do it forever mar 9 years I totally agree with Pad, you just have to make the jugement call with each situation. Everyone has a weakness in life, some of those weaknesses destroy us, some do not, but we cant hide everything from everyone all the time. I certainly would be very sensitive to my recovering friend, bu I think i have great judgment, so I would never put someone in a bad situation that I did not think they could handle. yayita 9 years agreed Nee :) N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e 9 years LOL ok lets agree to disagree and be friends :) yayita 9 years Nee, if it was just a clear cut question of wether I would drink in front of my alcoholic friend. I would say no. But if he or she is getting help and is far along in a program I would drink and help them accept alcohol without drinking it. I'm a fat ass and I allow my friends to eat buritos in front of me LOL hahaha N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e 9 years I agree, but the poll question doesn't mention partys or bars and even if it did Im not sure I would agree. I think it would be incredibly inconsiderate knowing what your friend is going through to drink in front of them...its almost like a subtle way of telling them that you arn't taking their problem seriously. I would hope if I ever had a problem like this that my friends would do the same for me. yayita 9 years disagree Neecalle, AA and all other programs say that the person with the issue needs to stop going to bars and partys at the beginning, but they then must make a normal life as possible. This includes going out and partying with friends regardless of alcohol. They must learn to live in the real world and avoid temptation. N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e 9 years Its not about changing habits,its about being supportive towards your friend during a difficult time. same thing if your friend was a recovering gambler..you wouldnt suggest a night out at the local casino...you just don't do things like that. yayita 9 years Nope, you have to cary on as usual, the person has to be in a real world situation to recover. You cant change your habits for them. Toronado 9 years Alcoholism recovery is a life-long battle. I know people who've been sober for years who've picked up the bottle again. I rarely drink, myself...but yes, I'd make a good effort to keep from doing it infront of someone in recovery. N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e 9 years this is also assuming that this person is freshly recovering and at risk of drinking again. obviously after so many years of recovery the person would become less likely to relapse. I just think that its important to be there for your friends when they need your compassion the most. BlondeSugar 9 years that would be highly inappropriate. there are a billion other things you can do together. it's a disease and should be looked at as such N-e-e-c-a-l-l-e 9 years Theres no way that would be appropriate, alcoholism is a disease and if your friend has a problem its the very least you can do to be supportive when they need it most. Padraigin 9 years uhhhh... who's "hating"? sarahlynn 9 years my bf quit smoking and i didnt' and i still smoke around him. i told him something like he choose to quit and i choose to smoke, hes never asked me to even quit smoking in the apt. it was his decision, not mine. even if i know smokeing is a bad habit ya'll...don't hate :P Padraigin 9 years You all do realize that an alcoholic is in recovery for the rest of his/her life, right? And you intend to abstain from alcohol around that person for the rest of his/her life? I'm sorry, but that's actually not doing the person any favors. Unfortunately, alcohol is all over the place and the recovering alcoholic has to get used to it. I don't drink that often, and have friends who are recovering alcoholics. When I have a party at my place, I cannot insist that NO one drink in front of one of them. And if one of them chooses to go to a bar or club with a group and I want a drink, I am going to have it. However, if we invite the person over for dinner and it's just "us", then no, I don't drink, nor does my husband. And if it's a newly recovering alcholic, then I do throw "dry" parties. If I go to a club alone with the person, I won't drink. It depends on where the person is in their recovery process. I ask my friends where they stand on having alcohol around them and go from there. mar 9 years my sister is a recovering alcoholic. I am not a big drinker, but at my wedding, I wanted everyone to get smashed, and I warned her ahead of time that there would be liquor, so she left a little earlier then the rest of the guests. In certain situations like that one, it was my day, and I told her about it in advance, and she was ok with it, so I felt that I was not going to altar such a huge thing for one person. I do not promote doing any drug in front of a person that has a problem with it, but most people that are in programs hang out with other recovering people. That is thier network, and it works for them. I live my life for me, and I can not be having to feel bad about the things I do because others have a problem with it. Life is too short, sorry to sound like a bitach. When some of you guys in your teens and twenties get older, you will understand that much more. KimmiAnn 9 years Friends are supposed to support one another through things like this....not shove it in their faces! Geez! That would be horribly insensitive! Believe in Magic!