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You Asked: Am I a Lesbian?

Dear Sugar,

I found myself, one late night surfing the Web and I came across a lesbian porn site and I loved it. It really turned me on watching the females enjoying each other. Truth be told I found myself touching myself. Now I can't wait until I'm home alone or when everyone is sleep so I can search for other sites to watch. I have yet to experience a woman kissing or touching me, but I think I want see how it feels. So does that mean I’m a lesbian?

—Questioning Kim


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Dear Questioning Kim —

It's great that you're getting in touch with your true feelings, and it must be a true revelation to figure out what really turns you on, but I'm wondering if you are turned on by men, too. If you're not, then I'd say that you are in fact into girls, but there's only one way to find out. Since you're wanting to see what it's like to be sexual with a woman, I think you should go for it. Only then, once you're in the situation, will you know if being with a women feels right for you. Give it some time and patience because as with anything new, you may feel a little nervous and unsure.

While it's important to be open and have fun while experimenting sexually, remember that STIs can be passed between any partner (male or female), so be sure you both get tested before getting busy. Sorry if I sound like your high school sex-ed teacher, but you've got to do all you can to keep yourself safe and healthy.


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