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You Asked: Am I Too Clingy?

Dear Sugar,

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little less than nine months. During the first few months, he was crazy about me and I could really tell how much he loved me. Now I can never get him to say he loves me on his own, I have to say it first. He used to not be able to keep his hands off me, and now I'm the one that's always wanting to touch him. I want things to go back to being the way they were; I want to feel like he loves me again. What can I do? Am I being too needy? Too clingy? — Needing Attention Natalie

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Dear Needing Attention Natalie,

All relationships go through cycles. Relationships also have a honeymoon phase, which almost always dies down once each person gets comfortable with the other. Now that isn't to say that you should all of a sudden feel unloved, so talk to your boyfriend; perhaps he's being distant because he's feeling stressed out with work, or maybe he just wants to feel your love for a change!

While being clingy is a completely normal reaction when someone pulls away from you, it can actually have the reverse effect. Being too needy can be annoying, which could in turn provoke your boyfriend to seek out his space even more. So ask him what's bothering him. Ask him if he needs you to do anything differently, and tell him how you're feeling. I'm sure he's not purposely trying to make you feel less loved, but if he doesn't know how his actions are making you feel, he'll never know he has to change them. Hopefully a good heart-to-heart will get you two right back on track!


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