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You Asked: Can I Force Matters of the Heart?

Dear Sugar,

I have been single for two years now and it's starting to take its toll on me. I have had my fair share of guys interested, but it's been my lack of interest in them that's causing me to remain unattached. I have also not been in a serious relationship in a long time; I am totally over all my exes so what's wrong with me? Why don't I give these guys a chance? One of them is the son of a friend of my dad's — I adore him, but don't find him physically attractive yet I enjoy spending time with him because he makes me feel good. I try to convince myself to take it to the next level with him, but I just can't do it! Do you have any advice for me? — Single Sonia

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Dear Single Sonia,

Let me first start out by saying that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you; you just haven't met someone that sparks your interest yet, that's all! As you've learned from spending time with your friend, you can't force yourself to feel a certain why, so instead of pushing for something that just isn't there, accept him for what he is — a friend.

You don't have to be in one relationship after another so just be patient with yourself and trust that when the time is right, and when you're faced with the right person, something could blossom into that relationship you're longing for. In the meantime, keep in mind that holiday parties are a great place to meet people, so continue to keep you eyes open and make sure you're approachable! Good luck.


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