I had bought an expensive engagement ring 3 years ago which I now possess again since we did not proceed with the actual marriage. Can I present it to my new girlfriend or do I need to buy a new one? If I do propose to her with the old ring, how will she take it if she finds out? I don't want to lie if she asks me so what can I say so that she will understand if she does find out? She knows I was previously engaged, but she doesn't know anything about the ring. I have managed to restore it and it now looks like new with new packaging. I don't want to do anything that I will regret in the future so any advice you could offer would be greatly appreciated. -- Clueless Calob
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Dear Clueless Calob--
In a nutshell, NO, no you should not propose to your girlfriend with a "used ring," and why would you want to, it sounds like that ring didn't bring you good luck the first time around! Although you never married the woman you originally gave the ring to, it technically "belongs" to someone else. If you are already essentially feeling guilty for thinking about re-gifting the engagement ring, your girlfriend is bound to find out, and if she is like any other red blooded woman, she's going to be upset and quite possibly furious.
The good news is that your old ring doesn't have to go to waste per se. Diamonds can be traded in for another stone and using the money from the other ring towards a new one for your current girlfriend is totally acceptable, so I highly recommend you finding a jeweler or diamond broker you trust and going that route. Although your engagement isn't going to be all about the ring, I am sure your girlfriend is going to want you to present her with something that is special and unique to YOUR relationship, not with something that was purchased with another woman in mind. I hope I was of some help to you, and good luck!