My fiancé and I have different religious beliefs. In the past, this has never been an issue since I do not seriously practice Catholicism and he does not practice any sort of religion. But now that we are getting married, it's become a serious problem for me. I want to honor my Catholic religion by being married in a Catholic church. I feel that since he does not believe in God or have any sort of religious background that this should not be an issue. As a former Catholic, he feels that the religion is corrupt but he said he would honor my wishes of having a Catholic ceremony anyway. I appreciate his flexibility, but it does bring up some concern for the future. What is going to happen when we have children? Will they be raised Catholic? What do we do on holidays? I just need to know how two people with different religious beliefs comprise.
— Difference of Opinion Olivia
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Dear Difference of Opinion Olivia,
Figuring out how to incorporate religion into your relationship is a serious discussion that must happen before saying I do. Just because he's not religious, it doesn't necessarily mean that he'll be OK with honoring your religion. With that said, couples from different beliefs make it work all the time. It sounds like you're going to want Catholicism to play a role in your children's lives, so have you told your fiancé this yet? If he's opposed to the idea, you're going to have to come up with a middle ground. Since he thinks the Catholic religion is corrupt, perhaps you can suggest letting your child choose the religion he believes in — tour a few different kinds of churches or temples until something clicks.
Since you've decided to get married in a Catholic church, chances are you'll have to take some sort of marriage preparation classes prior to your wedding day. As much as people loath the idea, these classes cover all sorts of important issues that affect your future such as money, how you plan on raising your children, and religion — just to name a few. These are all very serious topics that must be discussed so be sure to get everything squared away before becoming husband and wife. You want to make sure there are no surprises later on down the road. Good luck.