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Dear Sugar--

I have been dating this new guy for about 5 weeks now. I think he is so amazing, it feels like we have known each other for years and he showers me with affection. He has met a handful of my friends, but last weekend was kind of like his debut with my group of friends! I was thrilled to have him on my arm and to introduce him as my new boyfriend until he started scratching his crotch in the middle of conversations with people!!!

No one said anything to me but there isn't a doubt in my mind that people saw what he was doing. Why was he scratching his crotch in public? Is that normal? It was almost like he didn't even realize he was doing it! My girlfriends and I can be very critical of our friends new boyfriends so I can only imagine what they are saying about him. Can I save face from this? And more importantly, how can I bring this up with my boyfriend? I get so embarrassed about this kind of stuff, I just don't know if I can bring myself to actually bring it up. HELP!

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Ok, yes that is gross to say the least that your boyfriend was partaking in bathroom activity in public, especially at his debut!! Men will be men I guess, but if you honestly don't think he realized he was scratching away while engaging in conversation, you need to tell him ASAP so he knows that kind of behavior is simply not OK! While it's understandable for men to "adjust" themselves if need be, it must be done in an extremely sly manner or else they should have the manners to excuse themselves to the bathroom!

Having a conversation about this is bound to be a daunting task, so why don't you buy him some Gold Bond or some baby power to keep in the bathroom -- or the next time you witness this, simply grab his hand and hold it -- he'll get the gist!

As for your friends, I can say with confidence that their boyfriends or husbands are just as guilty as your boyfriend so I wouldn't lose too much sleep over it. Hopefully, you won't let this incident change the way you feel about your amazing new man!


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