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Dear Sugar,

I have been dating a great guy for about a month and a half, but we have only gone on four dates. We always have a great time together, we have wonderful conversations, and we have a lot in common, but he is extremely busy. He volunteers several times a week, plays sports, and has a very demanding job that usually results in him working late hours and weekends. He is also on the shy side, so I'm worried that he is either too busy to make a commitment or he is just being polite by still seeing me.Is it too early to have a talk about that with him? — Unsure Sandra

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Dear Unsure Sandra,

It's never too soon to have a talk with someone you're dating, especially if you're unsure about the way he feels about you. Four dates in a month and a half isn't a lot, and I'd probably have the same fears as you do, so I advise you to get to the bottom of this relationship ASAP. If he is just a busy guy, you need to decide if the time he's able to give you is enough to make you happy. But if it turns out that he's continuing to see you simply out of courtesy, I'd end it before you waste any more of each other's time. Good luck to you!


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