My question is this: Am I right to think it's so wrong for my boyfriend to masturbate in my room (which is in my parents' house) when I go off to work and let him sleep in? I have asked him numerous times not to do it but he still does.
—So Annoyed Annie
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Dear So Annoyed Annie,
I'm not even going to ask how you know that he's masturbating when you're not there. I will say that I have nothing against masturbating, that is unless it bothers others. Do you think it's inappropriate for him to pleasure himself in general, or do you just think he shouldn't do it in your parents' house? Does he masturbate in a way that your parents know, like can they hear him? Or maybe you're upset that he's masturbating instead of having sex with you?
Another issue is that you've asked him to stop and he's not listening to you, which is disrespectful to you and your relationship. I suggest you talk to him about ways to settle this little problem. If he's masturbating when you're not around, then maybe he's needing more sex then he's getting. Or maybe he's doing it as a way to relieve stress, which I think is totally acceptable. You can compromise by having him pleasure himself in a way that no one finds out, like in the shower. Or you can talk about waking up a little bit earlier so you can share that intimacy together before you go to work. If you just think it's weird that he masturbates in your parents' house, then maybe you could also think about moving out. However you decide to handle this, I would keep up the communication and I'm sure you'll be able to work this out. Good luck.