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You Asked: Is He Into Me or Not?

Dear Sugar,

About a week and a half ago I met a guy at a bar and we went out a few days later. He seemed sweet, smart, and cute, and I had a really good time with him. We even made out a little while watching a movie on the couch (after a beer or two). I asked him to go with me to an event a week later but things only went OK. We held hands a little but the conversation didn't flow that well but we tried our best not to make it awkward. However, at the end of the night, I couldn't read what he was thinking. He didn't try to kiss me good-night, so I ended up giving him this awkward peck at the last second. I asked when we would be seeing each other next, and he said he isn't available until the next weekend. My friends told me that if he was interested he would have asked me out regardless and gone in for a good-night kiss. So, now I've been waiting by the phone for days, a little confused as to whether he even has an interest and if he's going to call. What's your take?
— He Likes Me, He Likes Me Not Natalie

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Dear He Likes Me, He Likes Me Not Natalie,

Your friend has a point, but that's not to say that he isn't interested. It seems like everyone keeps getting busier and busier so maybe he just doesn't have time next week. He could also not have leaned in for the kiss for a number of reasons, but at the end of the day, he should have given you some sort of hint if he was interested in you. In my book, if you like someone you let them know — playing games just prolongs the inevitable. What does your gut tell you? Do you get the feeling that he wants to go out with you again and is just timid? Or do you doubt his intentions and feel like he was subtly blowing you off?

Since the conversation didn't flow on your last date, he could be avoiding the situation as opposed to being honest about his lack of interest. Don't wait by the phone — keep yourself busy and if he doesn't call soon, I'd take the high road and accept the fact that he might just not be that into you. As cliche as that may sound, it's often times the truth. Knowing that he's not interested sooner than later will prevent you from wasting any more precious time that you could be using to meet someone else. Good luck.


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