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You Asked: Is He Over His Past?

Dear Sugar,

I have been with my boyfriend now for three months. Things seem wonderful and great but there is one problem — I get really uncomfortable and, yes, jealous when he talks about any past relationships he has been in. In particular one he had that lasted two years.

I have told him that I don't like when he discusses things about her, but it seems that she's still coming up in conversations. It didn't bother me that much in the beginning, but now it is like an infected wound that will not heal. To top things off he works with her and has even admitted to having a dream where he cheated on me with her. Please help me! — Sick of Hearing About it Sally

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Dear Sick of Hearing About it Sally,

Wow, them working together absolutely puts a new spin on things. When did they break up, and who broke up with who? The fact that he is talking about his ex to his current girlfriend makes me think he is still in love with her and seeing her everyday must make things that much harder.

Of course you're jealous that he's talking about his ex all the time, I would be too, so I am glad you're telling him how you feel. Since they were together for two years, it's normal for her name to come up every now and again, but if he's not making a conscience effort to bite his tongue for the sake of respecting his relationship with you, perhaps he is simply not ready to move on.

The first few months of a relationship is the best part, so if you are already feeling jealous and doubtful of his feelings towards you and his ex, you might want to reevaluate this partnership. I wish you luck.


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