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You Asked: Is He a Player?

Dear Sugar,

Ever since I met the guy I am currently dating, I've been having the best of times. We're great friends and when I'm with him, I feel like I can be myself — I don't have to pretend to be someone I'm not just to please him. We're getting to be pretty close now, and I used to be so sure that this was what I wanted, but now I'm having second thoughts.

When we started seeing each other, rumors started to sky-rocket. They aren't rumors about us; they were rumors of his past that have been troubling me. According to everyone, he's a player. I really like this guy, but I don't want to put my feelings out there if I'm only going to get hurt. What should I do? — Protecting Myself Maureen

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Dear Protecting Myself Maureen,

The thing about dating and starting a new relationship is you have to treat your relationship like it's the only one you have both ever experienced. We all have pasts, we all have done our fair share of things we aren't proud of with ex's, but if you continue to put so much emphasis on rumors, you might ruin a potentially great relationship.

Just because he was considered a "player" before he met you, it isn't to say that he can't be a great boyfriend to someone he truly cares about. Being single and playing the field is important when trying to figure out what it is that you like and don't like. Remember, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.

Trust your gut instincts with this guy. If you haven't already had the exclusive talk, now's the time to do so. Once you are on the same page, leave the past in the past and try your hardest to ignore idle gossip and enjoy your time together. Good luck!


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