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You Asked: He Texts but Won't Ask Me Out

You Asked: He Texts but Won't Ask Me Out


There is a guy that I've been talking to for five months now. We text message every day and he usually initiates the conversations, but he hasn't asked me out yet. He was in a messy two-year relationship so I understand that he might not be ready to start something with me, but his flirtatious messages leave me confused and I'm starting to lose my patience here. Does it seem like this guy is interested but not ready? Does he just see me as a friend? Or is he like me, waiting to be asked out? I analyze this situation in my head over and over again but can't seem to come up with the answers. Do you have any advice? — Aggravated Angie

Dear Aggravated Angie

Talking via text message for five months without going out on a date makes me think one of three things. Either A) he has a girlfriend, B) he isn't interested in taking the relationship to the next level, or C) he's just not ready to be in a relationship again. It sounds like you're waiting for him to make the move, but instead of wasting any more time I'd just come right out and ask what his intentions are. I understand that we live in a very technological word, but as Greg Behrendt said, "If you're comfortable having an entire relationship on text, that's up to you, but you basically teach people how to treat you."

I hope you get the answers you need so you can either move forward in this relationship or put this man behind you. Good luck!

— Additional reporting by Alexis Nordby

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