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You Asked: Are His Political Views a Deal Breaker?

Dear Sugar,

Are political views a deal breaker? I've been dating my boyfriend for eight
months but I'm just now starting to realize how different his political views are from mine. He's got strange conspiracy theories that he thinks are facts about the Clintons and he shoots down everything I say about politics. Don't get me wrong, he doesn't tell me I'm wrong per se, but he immediately disagrees with whatever I say. Should this be a serious thing to consider when thinking about our future together? — Difference of Opinion Olivia

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Dear Difference of Opinion Olivia,
Many people say the two big things to avoid in conversation are religion and politics, but I happen to think anything that sparks an educational conversation or debate is a good thing. I think having different political views is just fine, even disagreeing on a few things is OK, but if he's condescending when talking about your differences of opinion, well that's another story.

At the end of the day, you and your boyfriend need to agree on the matters that will affect your relationship such as money, family, religion, how to raise your kids, etc. The only way your difference of opinion will be a deal breaker is if he doesn't respect the fact that you're entitled to have your own point of view. You can vote Democratic while he votes Republican just as long as your family and relationship values are the same. Differing on politics can push you to learn about each other's points of view, so listen to what he has to say, make sure he listens to what you have to say, and sometimes you're just going to have to agree to disagree. I hope this helps.


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