I want to prove my love to my ex boyfriend. In October, after we'd been together for about six months, he cheated on me. I loved him and forgave him but a few days later he broke up with me and went back to the girl he cheated on me with. To make a long story short, we worked it out again and got back together but it just wasn't the same for me. It seemed like I had to get over him sleeping with other girls all over again. I told him that we had to take it slow in order for us to build our trust back up again, but he took that as me pushing him away. He now wants me to prove my love to him but I just don't know how. Please help.
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Dear Distressed Dolly,
You've been through a serious roller coaster ride with this guy and from what you've told me, it sounds like he's enjoying having his cake and eating it too. In my book, cheating is unacceptable — sure, people make mistakes and it's entirely your decision whether or not to give him a second chance, but Dolly, giving him a third chance almost seems too lenient.
The fact that your boyfriend is making you jump through hoops to prove your love to him leaves a sour taste in my mouth — he was the one that cheated so don't you think he should be the one proving his love to you? If telling him, showing him and taking him back isn't enough proof that you love him, I don't know what is. This is your relationship so I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I suggest you proceed with caution. You deserve to be with someone who respects you and your relationship, not to mention your health. I wish you luck, Dolly.