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You Asked: How Can I Get Over My Mistake?

Dear Sugar,

I am having problems getting over my ex. We broke up a year ago, and I still hold on to serious feelings for him. We dated for nine months and we had a great relationship; he treated me incredibly well and was an amazing boyfriend. The problem was I always had another guy in the back of my head. I ended up kissing the other guy, and my boyfriend found out but decided to forgive me. We were OK at first, except every once in a while I would see the other guy and be confused again about my feelings.

To make a long story short, my boyfriend decided to end it with me. I realized after it was too late that this other guy meant nothing to me and that I truly loved and wanted to be with my boyfriend. We have been in and out of contact, but he refuses to give our relationship another try. I have learned from my mistakes and want to get back together more than anything in the world. I have apologized and done everything in my power over this year to prove to him that I am trustworthy, but he's not budging. Should I give up hope and move on? I just can't get over the fact that I was the one who did this and can't seem to fix it. — My Mistake Misty

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Dear My Mistake Misty,

Hindsight is always 20/20, but it unfortunately sounds like it's too late for you and your boyfriend. From what you're telling me, he put up with a lot in this relationship and quite frankly, I don't blame him for ending it — he probably felt like second best.

Telling your ex that you know you made a big mistake, that you still love him, and that you want to get back together with him is really the best you can do. If he's unwilling to even consider giving it another shot, persuading him otherwise will be close to impossible. Perhaps time will change his mind, but in the meantime, try to put this relationship behind you. If you two are meant to be together, you're paths will cross again in the future. Good luck to you.


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