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Dear Sugar--

Just this past weekend my boyfriend and I got into the same conversation we've had so many times before - the issue is I'm ready to get married and he's not. It's not that he does not want to marry me, it's just that he does not think it's time. We've been together for almost 2 wonderful years now and neither one of us see ourselves with anyone else, we plan to be together for the long haul but he says that we should wait 2 MORE YEARS until I have finished grad school. I don't think I can wait 2 more years!! I would never leave him over this and I would have a hard time giving him an ultimatum but I just don't know how I can go 2 years feeling like this. What do you think? -- Stuck in Limbo Lyndsay

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Dear Stuck in Limbo Lyndsay

I have heard countless women say they are ready to take the next step in their relationship when their boyfriend isn't, and I have the same response for all of them - you never want to force someone into committing if they simply aren't ready. It sounds like you have a great relationship with someone that you love and who loves you back, so my advice to you is don't rush it!

Planning a wedding takes serious dedication and a lot of hard work, so I happen to agree with your boyfriend about finishing grad school before getting engaged. Relatively speaking, 2 years is not that long - I am sure the last 2 years that you have spent with your boyfriend have flown by, so try to just sit tight and enjoy your relationship as it is. You have the rest of your lives to be husband and wife so embrace the excitement of dating while you can. Hang in there Lyndsay, your engagement will happen when the time is right for both of you!


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