I've been separated from my husband of 11 years for nine months. In the new year I started dabbling with dating. I met with few men for coffee, drinks, and dinner, but none took my fancy until now. We met online and chatted for a month before we actually met up face to face. It's been four and a half months, but I'm scared of getting into anything serious. I do desire to have someone in my life again and I'm not actively dating other men, so what's the matter with me? How can I open my heart again? — Back on the Market Mary
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Dear Back on the Market Mary,
Dating again after being off the market for so long isn't easy, but the more you put yourself out there, the easier it will become. Since you like this guy and do have a desire to be someone again, I think you should just take baby steps instead of diving into this relationship headfirst. Fear is a perfectly normal reaction, but if you open up to this man and tell him how you're feeling, I'm sure he'll be patient with you. Trusting someone with your heart isn't an easy thing to do, but if you trust in yourself, I think it'll just be a matter of time before you find true happiness again. Good luck to you.