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You Asked: How Did He Get Over Me so Fast?

Dear Sugar,

I was with my ex boyfriend on and off for about three years. The relationship was always tough. We went through all the immature stuff young people go through; having issues with each other's friends, him being very jealous and possessive, me wanting time apart to "figure things out." Regardless, he was my first love, but more importantly, my best friend.

In May, we got into an argument and in the heat of the moment, decided we were done for good, but would remain friends. Over the summer, I went through a really rough time with my family and realized how much I wanted him in my life. In August, I approached him about getting back together and he turned me down. He told me he needed to do what it took to make himself happy, but that he would always be there for me.

Well, what do you know, not even a month after this, he tells me he's dating a girl who he met the very weekend I asked about being together again. She lives four hours away from him, and this past weekend I looked at his online profile and she's already telling him she loves him and they haven't even been together a month! I'm devastated. I haven't spoken to him in over a month because I'm too heartbroken and I don't want to know anything about her. I feel like I'm never going to get over him and I don't understand how he got over me so quickly. — Left in the Dust Daisy

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Dear Left in the Dust Daisy,

I am sorry you are so upset, any way you slice it, break ups suck. They are hard, and trying and someone always gets hurt, but unfortunately, they are just a part of life that everyone has experienced. Anyone who has loved has also felt heart break, but remember that with time, your heart will heal and you will be able to move on with your life. With that said, getting over your first love is always the most difficult, so try not to be so hard on yourself. Time is an amazing healer.

Every person moves on at different speeds, so I am sorry that you have to witness your ex beating you to the punch, but remember that you will move on too. It's not a race Daisy, so when the time is right and when you meet the right person, you will know. In the meantime, treat yourself well, lean on your friends and family for support and hang in there. Good luck.


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