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You Asked: How Do I Blow Him Away?

Dear Sugar,

My fiancé is coming home in a week from being gone for a year at school in another state. I want to surprise him with the best night he's ever had. It needs to be completely unforgettable, but I don't know what to do. Obviously something sexy will ensue, but how do I start it? Dinner? Wine? What can I do to totally blow him away?

— Enticing Tisha

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Dear Enticing Tisha,

It can be overwhelming to see someone who you haven't see in a while: Expectations run high, and there's added pressure, so I think it's a good thing to start slow and rev up. Set the mood with soft lighting, great music, and of course, you, in something cute.

Beginning with food and wine is a great idea, but instead of cooking a lavish meal, which can be very stressful, come up with some easy appetizers — cheese, crackers, cured meats, and fruits are great when served elegantly. Once you guys have reconnected, it's time to turn up the heat! Use some sweet-smelling massage oil and give him a complete rubdown from his shoulders to his toes or pull him into the shower for a steamy rinse.

When he's completely relaxed (and totally excited!) it's time to take it up another notch. Surprise him with a sexy new piece of lingerie. If he's into the more sultry look, choose something black or red, and make up your eyes to match. If he's all about classic beauty, find something light pink or off-white and tousle your hair. I'm sure that from there, things will pretty much take care of themselves! Above all else, it should be fun and stress-free, so only do what works for you guys!


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