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You Asked: How Long Should I Wait Before Contacting Him?

Dear Sugar,

I met a guy in my office building a few weeks ago and after a little flirting, we decided to exchange numbers. We texted frequently and talked on the phone twice, but he didn't seem eager to meet up in person. I decided to move on and forget about him but the other day, out of the blue, he called me and ask me out for that evening. I went and we had a great time; it was a perfect first date. We've exchanged a few texts since then, (the date was Tuesday) so how long do I have to wait until I can contact him again? Or rather, should I wait until he asks me out on a second date? — What Are the Rules Rachel

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Dear What Are the Rules Rachel,

Though I'm sure you've heard about the "rules of dating," they are different for everyone. Some women are comfortable being forward with men while others are more traditional in their dating practices. Since you've been in contact since the date, and since it went well, I'll bet it's just a matter of time before he asks you out again. If you're getting impatient, you can always take matters into your own hands and ask him out, but if you're not comfortable doing that, you're just going to have to wait it out. I know that's a frustrating answer, but only you really know how to proceed so follow your instincts and do whatever feels right in this specific situation. Good luck!


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