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You Asked: My Emotions Are Up and Down

Dear Sugar,

I'm almost 21, attending a great college, and generally happy, and I have a great boyfriend who loves me very much, but I'm still so depressed. I will be happy one minute, and the next I'll be sad, angry, and crying uncontrollably. I have problems with anxiety, but I don't think that is the problem. I feel like I'm losing my mind. Please help me!

— A Mix of Emotions Melinda

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Dear A Mix of Emotions Melinda,

It sounds like you’re really struggling right now. College can be a very confusing and difficult time even amidst all the good experiences, so I’m sure you’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed. If you’ve spoken with a therapist in the past about your anxiety, I recommend getting back in touch to ask for advice. Your student health center is also a great resourcem so set up an appointment ASAP.

In the meantime, you might want to start a journal and write down what you’re feeling before, during, and after you find yourself in one of your darker moments. Not only will it be a good opportunity to see if there’s something else going on subconsciously, but it will also be a good reference to bring with you to a therapy or psychiatry appointment. And though I do firmly recommend seeking professional help, you can find great forums for emotional support online, like the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance, which offers both information and a supportive community for those suffering from mood disorders.


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