Dear Sugar --
I am totally in love with my girlfriend who is 16 years older than me, (I am 28 and she is 44) but my parents do not approve of our relationship because of our age difference. My girlfriend and I have a deep understanding and we love each other regardless.
I am planning to spend the weekend with her in Miami, but my mother is trying to force me to cancel my tickets and forget her. This upsets me very much. I want to share my happiness with my parents, but I can't because they do not approve.
I want to marry this woman some day, but my parent's approval is very important to me. Can you please help? --Torn Thomas
To DEARSUGAR's answer,
Dear Torn Thomas--
We all want our parents' approval no matter how old we are, but the fact of the matter is, you're a grown adult. Your mother cannot "force" you to do anything anymore, especially cancel a trip with a woman you obviously feel very deeply for, so have fun in Miami!
You need to have a serious talk with your parents and let them know that you have real feelings for this woman and plan to spend your life with her. Tell them you very much want their approval, but the grief they are giving you is making you extremely upset. Has your family spent much time with her? Perhaps if they got to know her a little better they would see how much happiness she brings to your life.
If your parents continue to refuse to accept your girlfriend, then you ultimately need to decide if you are willing to sacrifice your relationship with your family to be with the woman you love. Hopefully you won't have to choose between the two, and in time, your parents will learn to accept the woman you love despite your age difference. Good Luck!