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You Asked: Should I Befriend My Frenemy?

Dear Sugar,

I created a Facebook account sometime ago and came across an old friend. We had a tumultuous relationship and she often times didn't see anything wrong with calling me a friend without treating me like one. She was selfish and rude to me. She hurt me too many times so I ended the "friendship." I was devastated, but I realized neither she, nor her friends accepted me in the first place. She seemed hurt as well, but had other people she could rely on.

It's been three years since our breakup and since my social life is currently in despair, I've been considering trying to rekindle a friendship with her. I'm nervous that I'm making a big mistake and I really need some advise on this. What do you think I should do? — Friendless Francis

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Dear Friendless Francis,

Despite the fact that your personal life is in the dumps right now, I'm confused as to why you'd want to reconnect with someone that didn't appreciate your friendship when she had it. Your relationship sounded very one sided so while you might feel lonely, befriending her again might cause you more harm than good. Of course, the choice is yours, but I'd really weigh the pros and cons of rekindling this friendship. Meeting new people isn't always easy, but if you make yourself approachable, I don't see why you can't create new relationships with people that do accept you. Good luck.


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