My boyfriend of almost two years wants me to go natural down there — something I haven't done since I was a child. I feel really self-conscious about my vaginal hair. I think it's gross, but it turns him on. There would be a lot less pain involved, and a lot less time wasted, but I'm still scared. Help! — Hair Free Hadley
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Dear Hair Free Hadley,
If you feel uncomfortable growing out your pubic hair, don't. Of course you want to please your boyfriend and have him find you desirable, but if you are going to feel self-conscious
with hair down there, you're not going to be able to enjoy your intimate time together.
A lot of people think pubic hair is gross — why else would there be such a market for hair removal? — but it's all about personal preference. If you're simply scared about what it will look like or how it will feel, perhaps you could just give it a shot, just once, and if you're unhappy with the results then all you have to do is shave or wax it ASAP! If you're totally opposed, let your boyfriend know how unsexy you'll feel, and hopefully he will be understanding. Whatever decision you make, be sure to talk to him and keep the lines of communication open, as I'm sure he'll want you to feel beautiful and sexy in the bedroom.