I have been in a relationship with an individual who is away for six months out of the year. Last January I found out that he was seeing someone when he was away. I spoke with the girl, and she confessed that they were sleeping together, he, on the other hand, denied it. Then he went away again in November, and I still see on the phone bills that she is calling him. I want to leave him, but he begs me to stay. My question is, should I leave him or stay? He promises that he'll stop and says that he won't be going away anymore.
— Fed Up Fiona
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Dear Fed Up Fiona,
If you were married or if it was just the issue of him being gone all the time, I might suggest that you try to work it out; but, instead we're talking about your boyfriend, who you've caught cheating on you and then lied about. I don't think you should invest anymore time or energy into someone that you know you don't want to be with and who continues to hurt you. He certainly hasn't done much to earn your trust or respect. Furthermore, a relationship where one person is gone for prolonged periods of time is hard enough even if it's built on trust, which obviously this one is not. I know you deserve better than this, and you will be far happier with someone who you want to be with and who treats you with love and respect.