Dear Sugar --
I have been in a sexual relationship with this guy but we won't turn it into a real relationship although he says I love you. I have deep feelings for this guy. I want to be with him but I don't think he wants to be with me. Do I leave him and find a real relationship or could I stay and try to make it into a relationship? -- Hoping for the Best Beth
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Dear Hoping for the Best Beth --
You say "we" won't turn your relationship into a "real relationship," but it's pretty clear that it is actually him that is putting on the breaks here. The tricky thing about having a friends with benefits relationship is that one person always gets hurt. Although he says he loves you, we all know that actions speak louder than words.
Have you talked to him about wanting to take your relationship to the next level? Men are not mind readers so ask for what you want. If he is still hesitant to make a commitment to you, unfortunately you're going to have to accept his decision and move on to find a man that you can have a "real relationship" with. Good luck to you.