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You Asked: Should She Stand Up For Herself?

Dear Sugar,

My friend hooked up with this guy who has a reputation for being a player. We warned her to be cautious, but she said the chemistry they had was different. Things were great between them for a couple of months, but then she had to unexpectedly move due to a family emergency. They tried long distance, but he gave up after making promises of waiting for her, finding her a job in his city, living together, etc., and now my friend is heartbrokenly devastated. It hurts me to see her like this, and she is thinking of sending him an email, telling him what a jerk he is. I don't think that's a good way to approach this — I say just let it be and try to move on — but what do you think she should do? She's desperately asking us for advice, and I don't know what to tell her. — Helping a Friend Heather

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Dear Helping a Friend Heather,

I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out between them, but I'm glad to hear that she has supportive friends looking out for her. While I don't necessarily think it's a good idea to write him an email simply to bash him, I do understand why she might feel the need to express her feelings and perhaps get some closure so she can move on.

Since you think she should take a different approach, the best thing you can do is just support whatever decision she makes. I hope she can put this relationship behind her sooner rather than later — good luck.


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