I have been having an affair with a guy from work. He is very cute, and over the past few months I have fallen in love with him. He says he feels the same, (he told me first) however we both have partners and a family to consider. We agreed that we weren't going to leave our partners as our kids are too young to understand. The problem is I can't seem to get him out of my head — I miss him when I don't see him and if I don't hear from him. We try to text or phone each other everyday but that isn't enough, I want to be with him all the time. Please help, what should I do? — Cheating Courtney
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Dear Cheating Courtney,
You're not going to like what I have to say, but here it goes anyway. You need to end this affair — period. If you guys both love each other like you say you do, why continue to sneak around? It's pretty clear that you don't love your husband, so why stay in an unhappy marriage? You say your kids are too young to understand your situation, but kids are a lot smarter than you might think. They pick up on the smallest things, and I'm pretty sure they can sense that you're unhappy with your home life.
Being unfaithful to your husband is wrong, but you're not only deceiving him, you're also cheating yourself of true happiness. Talking and texting with this man everyday is very risky, so it's just a matter of time before you get caught. Honesty is always the best policy so my advice to you is to come clean to your husband before he catches you red handed. If you want to pursue a relationship with your co-worker, tell him that and leave your husband. If you're simply having an affair because you've hit some road bumps in your marriage, talk to your husband and see if you can pick up the broken pieces. I'm sure carrying around this heavy loud of guilt is wreaking havoc on you emotionally and physically so own up to your actions and follow your heart. Good luck.