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Dear Sugar,

Just today my boyfriend broke up with me out of left field and he won't even tell me why. I didn't do anything wrong apart from love him and care for him. I don't know what to do. He won't return any of my calls or answer any of my text messages. We were fine two days ago and now this. Please tell me what I can do! I'm really hurting right now and feel so lost. — Stunned Sadie

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Dear Stunned Sadie,

I'm so sorry to hear that you're hurting right now. Breaking up is hard, but it's even harder when you don't have the answers you so desperately want. Since he's gone radio silent, the only thing you can do is wait. I know that's not the answer you want to hear, but it's really the only one I can offer. Pestering him and clogging his voicemail or text inbox won't make things better, but if you feel like you just have to get some things off your chest, I suggest typing him an email or writing him a letter explaining how you feel. Once you've done that though, don't make any more attempts to contact him — let that be the closure you give yourself until he's ready to talk.

We could sit here all day and speculate where this suddenly came from, and as cliche as this may sound, only time will tell. Since you say you've only loved and supported him, something tells me this is an issue that has more to do with him than you, but again, I'm only speculating. While you wait for more to be revealed, try to lean on your friends and family for support. Do all the things that have been on your to-do list and keep yourself busy. I can only imagine how hard this must be for sure, so please treat yourself well. Good luck.


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