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You Asked: Where Do We Stand?

Dear Sugar,

I'm recently single after being married for eight years. My husband had been seeing another woman and left me for her. During the past year, I became friends with one of my customers from my store. I was instantly attracted to him but did not let it go past friendship because I was still technically married. After my husband left, this man and I became closer than ever and we are now intimate. He calls me on a daily basis and we go out at least once a week. I love how close we are but my problem is I'm not sure where we stand and I'm afraid of scaring him off by asking. I know it's fast to start a relationship so soon after separating from my husband, but I feel that this man is the one for me. Any advice? — Ready to Roll Ronda

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Dear Ready to Roll Ronda,

I am sorry to hear about your split from your husband, but it sounds like it was for the best. The good news is you've met someone you like spending time with and I'm glad to hear that you took things slowly in the beginning and got to know each other as friends first. Since you're newly single, I advise you to continue on the slow path but I think it's important to establish where exactly you stand with this man. Since you're only seeing each other once a week, make sure you're on the same page when it comes to dating other people and what your expectations are for the future. Trust and honesty is a big part of being in a successful relationship so although you fear scaring him away, you need to know the truth. If you approach the subject in a laid back manner, I don't think he'll panic and who knows, he might be waiting for you to come to him to ask the same question! Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.


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