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Dear Sugar--
I think my brother might be cheating on his wife. They have a 3 month old baby so this makes it even more painful. I overheard him having a conversation on his phone-talking in a low tone similar to ones I overheard months ago when it turned out he had been cheating when his wife was pregnant. I walked into the room and he kept on talking like it was no big deal, basically asking how the other person spent the previous day. Should I confront him about my suspicions? I haven't been able to trust him since the first time he cheated or am I being overprotective and paranoid? -- Worried Wendy

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Dear Worried Wendy --

Since your trust level has already plummeted from past behavior, could you be jumping to conclusions here? The fact that he continued his conversation after you entered the room makes me think he was simply using his inside voice rather than his "cheating voice." Was he acting like himself later that day? Has he been uncomfortable around you since?

Cheating is not OK, but this marriage isn't yours, it's your brother's, and you might not have all the information. I don't know the nature of your relationship and how involved you were after finding out he cheated, so if you don't want to tarnish the relationship that you currently have with him, I advise you to stay mum. If you feel it in your heart of hearts that he is up to no good, keep one eye open and if you gain information that backs up your suspicions, then, and only then have a talk with him. I with you luck and hope that you are just being paranoid after all.


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