POPSUGAR Love You Don't Need Permission To You Don't Need Permission To . . . You Don't Need Permission To . . . by DearSugar 10/13/08 0 Shares Like us on Facebook . . . be the one that's always late. Source Read More You Don't Need Permission ToLove And Sex POPSUGAR, the #1 independent media and technology company for women. Where more than 75 million women go for original, inspirational content that feeds their passions and interests. Get inspired with our daily newsletter Love and Sex Food Tech Home DIY Vegetarian Sign up with By signing up, I agree to the Terms and to receive emails from POPSUGAR. Mykie7 6 years Pop AND Janine, I agree with you. There are some "disorders" that would make it understandable, I think both Pop & I were talking in generalities for the majority of the population. My biggest irritation about lateness is in the work place, because when you're late to work it's not just you that suffers, it's everyone that has to cover for you until you arrive so that they can't do their OWN job as well while also doing yours. (And when I say you and yours I mean in general) popgoestheworld 6 years I'm sorry to pass judgment, Janine. You are right that I really have no idea what it's like for you. I was making very broad statements and you are right, again, that there are definitely exceptions. It sounds like you have taken steps to let people around you know what's going on, and that is certainly very considerate. It also sounds like this is something that you have put a lot of thought into and I'm sure your friends are understanding of it. I still think that for many people it's an issue of selfishness, but I will definitely concede your point that I cannot put myself in everyone's shoes and understand what it's like for them. I'm sorry if I offended you! Janine22 6 years popgoestheworld: I guess I just meant that I am not a naturally organized person and I don't enjoy always living my life by a clock. It is easy to say to start getting ready earlier, but if you don't have a problem with this, I guess it is difficult for you to understand. The other thing is, when you have OCD/OCD like tendencies you have to perform certain rituals before going anywhere. This takes time. I don't like it that people somehow assume that people who are often running late are selfish or incosiderate people. Some things in life are just more difficult for people with different personality types. I am very aware of my behaviour, and I actually tell friends/family to sometimes lie to me about the time of our meeting so that I will not disappoint them. I will also always call and let them know exactly when I will be there or that I am running late today. I am a very kind and considerate person in many ways, so people close to me are understanding about this. californiagirlx7 6 years I used to be the person who would show up about 10-15 minutes EARLY for any occasion. But in the past year or two, I've been the kind of person who is about 5-20 minutes late for anything because I do not manage my time wisely and I think that I have plenty of time to accomplish a task before I have to leave, but it turns out that I don't. HOWEVER, I always make sure to call my friends if I'm running late or if I get stuck in traffic. I would never just show up late without notifying my friends first. But I loathe going to the doctor and dentist, not only because I don't like check-ups, but also because they tell me to arrive at a specific time and then make me wait around with nothing to do for 15-20 minutes at least. I don't understand why they always do that, so I usually show up late so that they will take me right away. I know that sounds disrespectful, but I have gotten a LOT better recently and now I try to show up to any occasion right on time. One thing that really irks me is when my friend will meet me 20+ minutes later than the time we had agreed to meet and she doesn't call or give any explanation. I just wait around for her and then she acts like it is no big deal. If you can't meet at a specific time, just call me when you are on your way so I can meet you at the same time :oy: It's so frustrating. Mykie7 6 years Right pop. It's one thing to say to someone that you're meeting for a movie, "I'll be there at 6ish" and arrive at 6:10. I don't think that's a problem. And everyone has emergencies that will cause them to be late from time to time, but in that case a courtesy call is the way to go. Just about everyone and their dog has a cell phone now (Well, maybe not the dog). popgoestheworld 6 years I don't think lateness can be part of who a person is. It's something a person does. If you know you have problems getting out of the house quickly, start getting ready 10 minutes earlier. I am a laid back person, but if I agree to meet someone at a certain time, I'm there. Not because I'm so type A and can't relax and can't live without a schedule yadda yadda, it's because it's just the polite thing to do. The way I see it, if you are so laid back that time is irrelevant to you, then tell the person you're supposed to meet up that is your outlook on life and then they can decide when to show up themselves. I'm late from time to time by the way. Shit happens. I'm just talking about the habitual "the world can wait for me" type people. Janine22 6 years I am always running a little bit late! It's a constant struggle for me. BTW, it is not related to disrespecting any one I am supposed to meet, it is just part of who I am. But I do understand that it can be frustrating for my friends/family on occasion. But I am always trying to improve myself. I am not an organized person, but I try to be. I also get anxiety/kind of OCDish whenever I leave the house, I have to do certain things first. It bothers me when people take it personally, because it's really not a personal insult to them. I agree with Muirnea I hate constantly being a slave to a clock! Sometimes I wish I lived in a different culture, where people are not so focused on the clock all the time. Mykie7 6 years Okay, yes you DO need permission. This is rude, inconsiderate and shows a lack of organization. The excuse of "Traffic was bad" doesn't fly with me, because I went through the SAME traffic and I made it on time! As a manager at a major computer store years ago, that was my biggest reason for letting people go. If they didn't care enough about the job to make sure they were on time, I didn't care enough to keep them employed. Period. No second chances on punctuality. StefanieO 6 years Once in a while is ok, but when you're constantly late, you're constantly asking other people to accommodate your rudeness. That is not ok. RustyAngel73 6 years i HATE constant lateness. occasional is fine, these things happen, but constant is a huge pet peeve. Nina_79 6 years It's very inconsiderate and rude to always be late. If something really comes up, ok, no problem. If you are always late, start getting ready 20mins earlier next time. Gravastorm 6 years Hung out with a guy I worked with who'd "be late to his own funeral", as they say. 5 min late, consistently, he did it on purpose. Got him back once. After he passed out I changed all the clocks in the house and unhooked the cable on the way out. He was more than 5 min late..manager tore him up..he never came late when I was on shift again. HAha Antioxidant 6 years I hate tardiness. It always pays to be punctual, if not early. inksee 6 years Five minutes is not bad at all! I hate it when some of my friends are CONSTANTLY way late. I'm talking about "I'm still eating dinner right now and I need to fill up gas and do ten other things before I get there and there's a bunch of traffic right now" late. gr! Muirnea 6 years Hahahah, wow, everyone is going to hate me, but that is totally me. I'm usually just like 5 min. late or something though, not a lot. I think people worry to much about time, everyone needs to relax a little and enjoy life instead of worrying about keeping everything exactly on scheldule. American culture is a lot more time oriented than other places really. javsmav 6 years I'm always late. I can't help it. I'm too disorganized. Fortunately all my friends are always late too. brookrene 6 years I disagree too! Being consistently tardy is annoying! BellaEdward4ever 6 years Better an hour early than a minute late...I always freak out about getting to classes and appointments on time. People who are always late seriously annoy me. Mesayme 6 years I hate that! I like to be early. Doesn't always happen but I'd rather be early than late. HeidiMD 6 years Lateness is one of my biggest pet peeves. Everyone has things that come up once in and a while, but if you are consistently late, it gives people a certain unpleasant impression of you as someone who is lazy, inconsiderate, and irresponsible. julieulie 6 years I agree with the other comments. It is rude and inconsiderate. I have dropped friends over this. It's fine if you're late now and then -- things happen to all of us! But when you are constantly late EVERY SINGLE TIME, and you KNOW you will be late and can't remedy the problem, it shows that you think that your time is more valuable than those around you, because everyone else can afford to stand around and wait for you. Unacceptable. Sun_Sun 6 years i HATE tardiness HATE IT!!!!!!!!!! popgoestheworld 6 years "You don't need permission to think only about yourself and not worry about wasting other people's time!" Er, yeah. Foofie 6 years I am with everyone else. Being late is extremely disrespectful, fustrating, annoying, and at times stressful. Especially when you have a time sensitive engagement such as a movie, or a play and you're stuck with someone who is running late. AngelineZoe 6 years I cannot stand people that are late. It aggravates me to no end. My sister is consistently late and I hate it to no end. I'm always respectful of people and am always on time.