Skip Nav
Eye Candy
You Don't Have to Be a Football Fan to Fawn Over This Hot Super Bowl Ref
Sex
12 Actors Who Have Bared All on Screen
Relationships
15 Perks of Getting Married in Your Early 20s (or Even Younger)

This or That: You Gave Him an STI or He Passed One on to You?

After a few great weeks spending time together, you and your new guy have decided to take the plunge and become exclusive. Naturally, to celebrate, you get busy but just a few days later, you suddenly have something strange going on downstairs. An emergency trip to the gyno reveals it's an STI. Would it be worse if . . .

This: It turns out that you must have picked this up from your last boyfriend and inadvertently passed it along to your new guy? A quick conversation with your ex reveals that he had signs of it but never mentioned it to you before. You're very upset and utterly humiliated that you have to tell your new boyfriend this news.

Or . . .

That: When you spill the beans to the new guy, he blushes and confesses that his last girlfriend had it, too? Apparently, he didn’t think males could be carriers. You're beyond dumbfounded by his complete lack of knowledge.

Source

Around The Web
How Meditation Increases Productivity
Natural Neosporin Alternative
DIY Sore-Muscle Salve
DIY Headache Soother

POPSUGAR, the #1 independent media and technology company for women. Where more than 75 million women go for original, inspirational content that feeds their passions and interests.

Join The Conversation
calli-gurl calli-gurl 7 years
im a frekkin virgin! i would kick ass if the guy i do it with (after marriage ofcourse, i would get a divorce!) passes it to me
My1mia My1mia 7 years
Use protection ladies. I hate to say it but most men are trifling. We as women immediately suffer symptoms when things aren't right down there. It's not always the case with men. Both are terrible and I would dump the new guy for being so carless and ignorant!
EricaJane EricaJane 7 years
My answer might have been different if I knew whether or not the STI was treatable/curable. If so, I'd rather not be the responsible party, because there's a lot of leverage to be gained from the guilt of it all.. not to mention the fall out of the flip side. I think they're both horrible, and should remind everyone to be safe!!
EricaJane EricaJane 7 years
My answer might have been different if I knew whether or not the STI was treatable/curable. If so, I'd rather not be the responsible party, because there's a lot of leverage to be gained from the guilt of it all.. not to mention the fall out of the flip side.I think they're both horrible, and should remind everyone to be safe!!
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 7 years
In this case it would be worse if he gave it to you. He knew that his girlfriend had it and didn't bother to look it up online and see that he could carry it and transmit it to you. Your ex is your ex and you don't need to have trust with him anymore.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 7 years
In this case it would be worse if he gave it to you. He knew that his girlfriend had it and didn't bother to look it up online and see that he could carry it and transmit it to you. Your ex is your ex and you don't need to have trust with him anymore.
italianblonde italianblonde 7 years
Well, either way you get it from your guy-either your ex or your current one. I'd pick the This option because it says I unknowingly give it to him...the that option says he knowingly gives it to me, and I don't want to get an STD from someone who knows they have it (or give it to someone when I know I have it).
juicylove juicylove 7 years
which is worse, having something and passing it on, or having smething, passing it on, and then finding out your bf is an idiot? why is that even a choice. one bad thing or two? hmm.
Blackwidowchick Blackwidowchick 7 years
Both are horrible. But I would rather have it accidentally happen then the person knowing and still passing it. I get myself tested regularly for things even though I am in a monogamous relationship. I think everyone should just to protect themselves.
MartiniLush MartiniLush 7 years
Where is the option for "both are equally awful"??
animatedpunk animatedpunk 7 years
wow, both suck
animatedpunk animatedpunk 7 years
wow, both suck
kiwitwist kiwitwist 7 years
They are both horrible but I agree with Tami715.
xoxoxx xoxoxx 7 years
Both! Dude, if I caught it from my ex when he knew he had signs, I'd beat his ass; if the new beau got it from HIS ex and said "well I didn't know I could get it! I'M INVINCIBLE A-HURR-HURR" then I'd beat his ass, too. I'm screwed [don't take that literally] either way! >.<
xoxoxx xoxoxx 7 years
Both! Dude, if I caught it from my ex when he knew he had signs, I'd beat his ass; if the new beau got it from HIS ex and said "well I didn't know I could get it! I'M INVINCIBLE A-HURR-HURR" then I'd beat his ass, too. I'm screwed [don't take that literally] either way! >.<
Tami715 Tami715 7 years
Brielle, it's not silly... it's exactly what it says in the post. "It turns out that you must have picked this up from your last boyfriend and inadvertently passed it along to your new guy? A quick conversation with your ex reveals that he had signs of it but never mentioned it to you before." "When you spill the beans to the new guy, he blushes and confesses that his last girlfriend had it, too? Apparently, he didn’t think males could be carriers. You're beyond dumbfounded by his complete lack of knowledge."
Tami715 Tami715 7 years
Brielle, it's not silly... it's exactly what it says in the post."It turns out that you must have picked this up from your last boyfriend and inadvertently passed it along to your new guy? A quick conversation with your ex reveals that he had signs of it but never mentioned it to you before.""When you spill the beans to the new guy, he blushes and confesses that his last girlfriend had it, too? Apparently, he didn’t think males could be carriers. You're beyond dumbfounded by his complete lack of knowledge."
LadyAngel89 LadyAngel89 7 years
Both of those situations would be horrid.
geebers geebers 7 years
Both are irresponsible from either side. Although my passing it onto him sounds like an accident - I would have gotten myself tested and really cant imagine this happening to me. Still -if he KNEW about it and STILL didnt get tested? At least I can excuse myself because I had no idea I had it...
Fallen85 Fallen85 7 years
Most STIs can be cured by just a short run of anti-biotics so if he accidentally passed chlamydia or gonhorrea then it wouldnt be a big deal. A little embarrassing but totally understandable (alot of men and woman can have very little or no symptoms for quite a few months after contracting the STI) just pop a few pills, avoid sex for 10 days and then move on. I think neither would be all that bad. They both suck but not the end of the world, or the relationship.Herpes, HPV, Syphillis or something along those lines on the other hand... that would suck and I dont know if me unwittingly passing it on is worse or him being aware his ex had the disease but still passed it on... both would suck big time and would probably create some irrepairable damage to the new relationship. Yikes.
Fallen85 Fallen85 7 years
Most STIs can be cured by just a short run of anti-biotics so if he accidentally passed chlamydia or gonhorrea then it wouldnt be a big deal. A little embarrassing but totally understandable (alot of men and woman can have very little or no symptoms for quite a few months after contracting the STI) just pop a few pills, avoid sex for 10 days and then move on. I think neither would be all that bad. They both suck but not the end of the world, or the relationship. Herpes, HPV, Syphillis or something along those lines on the other hand... that would suck and I dont know if me unwittingly passing it on is worse or him being aware his ex had the disease but still passed it on... both would suck big time and would probably create some irrepairable damage to the new relationship. Yikes.
brielleblonde brielleblonde 7 years
umm.. tarni, it seems silly to think if it was you it was clearly an accident but if it was him its like he's out to get you. one word, condoms.
brielleblonde brielleblonde 7 years
umm.. tarni, it seems silly to think if it was you it was clearly an accident but if it was him its like he's out to get you. one word, condoms.
Tami715 Tami715 7 years
I think it would be worse if he passed it to you knowing he was at risk. That shows carelessness and lack of character. If you unknowingly passsed it to him, it was an accident and completely not your fault. Besides, so early in the relationship, protection should be used anyway.
Tami715 Tami715 7 years
I think it would be worse if he passed it to you knowing he was at risk. That shows carelessness and lack of character. If you unknowingly passsed it to him, it was an accident and completely not your fault.Besides, so early in the relationship, protection should be used anyway.
Latest Love
X