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Your Heavy-Set Friend Constantly Complains To You About His/Her Weight. What Do you say?

What do you think Barbara Walters would say to buddy and fellow co-host Rosie O'Donnell if Rosie started to gripe about her weight? I'd be curious to hear her Viewpoint.

I know that BFF's Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King urge each other to exercise and eat right. They have their own routines to suit their specific bodies, but they often exercise together. They believe that being physically fit does a body (and mind) good.

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highsociety1 highsociety1 10 years
Sorry, I have an extremely low tolerance for whining. If I really considered her my friend, I would tell her to quit complaining and do something about it. I think the third choice is somewhat passive aggressive.
Moongal Moongal 10 years
exactly that is the whole thing in a nutshell, having to want to do it, and for whatever reason, she does not sound ready or she is not willing to give up all the bad food choices she is making. It really is hard, but she is the only one that can do it
leslieroses leslieroses 10 years
well... since i only have one REAL girlfriend, i'd say what i would want to hear and that is that I AM FINE. & even if i WAS fatter than normal... i would still be fine.
lms lms 10 years
I have an extremely overweight friend and I have tried everything. I am 5'9" and wear size 4-6. I have gone on the Zone with her, hired a personal trainer, ordered salads when we go out, etc. She always finds a reason not to follow through. She would order all the cheeses, pastas and fried foods. She would complain that she doesn't like the Zone food. I have honestly stopped saying anything about her weight at all. She even told me once that she wanted gastric bypass, but said she didn't qualify for it(she did). Her Dad finally told her to do it and her story changed to there is no way she wants that done to her stomach b/c she loves food too much. I don't want to entertain any conversations regarding her weight. The main problem is that she has the absolute lowest self esteem and gets used by men so BADLY b/c she says she rathers to be with a no good man than no man. I strongly believe that she wouldn't do this if she took care of herself. However, there is only so much you can do for a person if they are not willing to do it for themselves.
Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt 10 years
I can put up with bitching for a cpl of times, but if you don't do anything about your problems, I'm out.
lexaboo lexaboo 10 years
I have a heavy friend, and she does work out and eat right but it just doesn't seem to help. We'eve both battled eating disorders so I just try not to say much and honestly, although I'm thinner, there are times when I really do feel fat so if I say anything, I'm just being honest.
Adriana42 Adriana42 10 years
I really dont like hearing it so I tell them to get their ass to the gym asap and stop eating every half an hour.
sexyeyes sexyeyes 10 years
I eat a lot but I don't gain weight but I do have a little belly which I'm dying to get rid off. My friend on the other hand does gain weight if she eats the way I do but her problems are her tighs and butt I always tell her to go to the gym with me but always something happens that we never go.
pinkangelmonkey pinkangelmonkey 10 years
i am with tor on the weight issue...i eat a lot and dont gain. i dont know how but i wish people would stop asking that. i started gaining recently but im still skinnier or as skinny as all of my friends. i just went from under 100 to over 100 (by a bit...) and i complain only when i cant wear the same stuff i wore in middle school! hahaha im 22 so that was a while ago. i have overweight friends that complain very rarely. i dont know... i hate when someone is complaining every day it is hard to take but i am the one to go to the gym with them. i eat healthy for the most part so i usually get the good stuff anyways unless its my taco bell yummies... anyways that was alot of rambling...i guess ill just support them and help them however they need or want it.
yayita yayita 10 years
Your pics are too cute Toxxic and you have the happiest glowing face on a pregnant mommy. Even your stick figure is cute hehehe
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
I never had a problem with this till I had my baby. All my friends were the skinny girls an it was mutal to fuss about our fat. Then it turned to me having to loose baby weight an just looking at them made me feel sick. But they were always supportive. telling me that I wasnt fat that it was going to go away. and then complaining about how fat they were. now we are all on opposite sides of the country so we complain via email.
wren074 wren074 10 years
Tough subject. I too am the heaviest of all my friends. Whenever they complain about their weight, I just don't say anything, but then again, I never complain in front of them. My weight struggle is mine, not someone elses. The only people that ever hear about it are my boyfriend and my mother, both completely supportive of how I want to live my life - whether that means being skinny or not. They are mostly concerned with my health and I am too. My problem is lack of movement. I have a very stagnant job and am working on getting one away from an office. I know I feel better when I work out, it's just finding the time and motivation. My doctor recently put me on several medications for other issues that have side effects that will help with the motivation to lose weight. Sure, there are times when I feel out of place or as if people that don't know me are judging me because I'm not thin. But I have others things in my life that I am proud of and I choose to focus on those rather than on pleasing others.
Toronado Toronado 10 years
I am slender and can pack junkfood away very easily without gaining weight. The thing I am often asked is how I can do it. How the hell should I know? My metabolism is just really fast? I don't like it when people come to me seeking answers about that sort of thing...I'm no doctor, I've no clue why my body is the way it is.
nicachica nicachica 10 years
yayita, again you take the words out of my mouth! i'm not skinny but i'm not obese either and i just choose not to talk about it with my friends cuz there are more important issues to discuss. besides, i just started weight watchers, so we'll see how that goes. i'm being pro-active about my weight issues but i'm a bit shy telling my boyfriend that i'm going to the meetings. i don't want him to comment on my weight (i guess that's my little insecurity talking) even though i know he loves me the way i am.
yayita yayita 10 years
Im a fat ass but I dont complan to friends, they know I have issues and love and support me. I only talk to my sister about it hehehe. I hate that Im fat but I love me the way I am meaning my personality, my smarts, my strengh and my sense of humor.
karmasabitch karmasabitch 10 years
I know more than a few people that complain about weight. Some of them do it constantly, and some every once in a while. Even my mom and sister complain about their weight and they're both tiny.. so I'm used to it. It can get a little repetetive and annoying after a while if someone either 1. looks good and complains about being fat or 2. complains nonstop and doesn't do anything about it, but overall I don't mind. I know my friends and family need to vent and it's cool, I'd never get outwardly mad at them about it. I have offered to exercise with people in the past if they needed me to eat healthy around them, I'd be more than happy to.
LaylaCams LaylaCams 10 years
Oh if you want to end a friendship with this girl there is 2 ways to do it... 1. Talk about your weight all the time 2. Tell me to SHUT UP, and mean it. I can not stand to hear people talk about their weight. I don't want to be like YES YOU'RE FAT, and I could never lead by example, if I don't want a salad, I'm not ordering one. Now when I go to the gym you're more than welcome to come too! So basially, I'd say nothing.
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 10 years
If my overweight friend really wanted to do something about it, I'd suggest we join Weight Watchers and a gym together. What's worse in when thin people complain about being fat just so you'll say "You're not fat!"
sanD13 sanD13 10 years
I answered the first one. When I hear myself complaining to my friend that I've gained weight, after a few times I know it gets annoying to my friends. So I try to change that and go to the gym. There's no point in complaining if you're not trying to do something about it.
Moongal Moongal 10 years
just lead by axample thats all you can do, they are going to continue to complain until they are ready to get motivated and do something about it
son-zsa son-zsa 10 years
I voted for neither... The best thing you can do for a friend is join a class or gym with him/her. Something like kickboxing (or any martial arts) that is scheduled and requires a deep commitment and most importantly is fun.
dovima dovima 10 years
a pound is 3500 calories...what do you mean "nothing works"...if you eat more than of 3500 calories you will gain a pound. generally [depending on you height/weight] about 2000 calories a day you will maintain you weight. it is that simple. try this: drink more water be aware of what you are putting in your mouth [don't eat crap] eat when you are hungry and not just bored or thirsty. it doesn't hurt to be vegan/vegetarian or only eat organic those lifestyle changes will always help you loose weight because you are forcing your body to eat more fresh natural foods & vegetables.
Padraigin Padraigin 10 years
How about none of the above? I just accept my friend for who and what she is and when she complains about her weight, I just say, "well, you know what? It is what it is and the only person with control over it is you."
colormesticky colormesticky 10 years
I'd say I'm right there with ya, want to go to the gym with me since my husband is a lousy workout buddy?
cottoncatie cottoncatie 10 years
i dont complain to my friends and they dont complain to me, but if one of my bfs started eating all healthy and exercising and trying to get me to do it too, id be pi$$ed off and feel worse about myself. I used to put twinkies in the glove box of my car, and eat them after i went to the gym. hee hee hee...
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