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Treating yourself to a nice meal at a restaurant is a great way to catch up with friends, family, co-workers, etc. but when the bill comes, your lovely meal could turn into a stressful situation. We all have a cheapskate friend, or two for that matter, who scour the bill, carefully calculating whatever he or she ate and drank, penny pinching whenever possible. Then there are others who opt for evenly splitting the bill down the middle or dividing it equally depending upon the amount of diners, regardless if one person ate a chicken salad and another a filet mignon.

This exact scenario has been know to create tension between friends if everyone isn't on the same page, leaving one person embarrassed, fed up, and just plain irritated especially when you are dining in a large group. So ladies are you the type that would rather make it easier on everyone and split the bill evenly or do you feel more comfortable only paying for what you ordered?

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kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
what my best friend and I do is trade off. One week I will pay for the whole bill, next she will pay for the whole bill. Eventually it will all work out in the wash! If I am going out with a bunch of co-workers I tend to split down the middle, makes life easier or we get seperate checks. I don't drink so I usually get shafted on the bill but I look at it as "it will come back to you". For instance, there are days where they will buy coffee for you or bring you something back from somewhere... It is not work the headache in my opinion. BUT if I was eating out with a "little piggy LOL" and their bill was constantly more money then I would split the bill.
anaisethenry anaisethenry 9 years
I go out a lot with my colleagues from work and we always split the bill, in the end it usually evens out. Sometimes when we order food, and someone orders something much more expensive then he/she pays more than the rest. So far we haven't had any problems! :)
haze1nut haze1nut 9 years
OMG OMG OMG OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! like if it's my bday my parents let me take their card and take my friends out to eat and everyone says thanks EXCEPT! I HAVE THIS FRIEND! this one friend and she neeeeeeeever says thank you when me or the bf offer to cover the bill! NEVER! i mean, she's a good friend but for freakingasdlkfasdfkas sakes say THANK YOU for the lunch/dinner. she's not mean or anything either. she just doesn't have manners, seriously me and the bf gossip between ourselves about her (which is bad but i so needed to vent) FOR FREAKS SAKES! chwist!
brielleblonde brielleblonde 9 years
Being in college we always pay for only what we ate, +tip. Most of the places around town ask about how the check is going to be split before the meal, so it makes his/her job easier. I also don't think its fair if i order water and something cheap and have to pay the same as someone who orders an expensive drink + apps + expensive meal.
BeachBarbie BeachBarbie 9 years
I eat a lot, and drink a lot. :@) So, I think it's fair to pay separately. Otherwise, I get irritated because, I feel like I have to keep my part cheap (then, I end up hungry & cranky). :mob: Or, if it's a couple who does the same thing (eats and drinks a lot) and we have a routine of going out we'll pay, and then the next they pay next time & so on. :)
red4ev red4ev 9 years
if my friends and i go out to dinner we ask for a separate tab at the beginning of the meal that way we dont worry about it at the end...i had an ex-bff who would always try and mooch off of me because i had a little more money than she did, but for some reason she always spent more when we were shopping or eating like she was pretending that she slept on a pile of dough or something...it bothered me and eventually money and her insecurities did end our friendship :(
GirlC GirlC 9 years
I usually just split esp. if it's the same people I usually go out with. It all works out in the end.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
It depends on the group. I'm with everyone on the drinking thing. Usually I don't partake, and a couple bottles of wine can really add up! But if it's someone's birthday and there are 15 people in the group then I usually just mentally prepare myself to fund someone else's drinking for the evening, because calculating individual totals with 15 people is just insanity. Also, there is a couple we go out with so often that we just split every bill down the middle. It will always balance out eventually. I had a friend that used to drive me bonkers though. If she spends more than everyone else, she wants to split evenly. But if she spends less, then wants to just pay her share. It's kind of funny but a little annoying.
partysugar partysugar 9 years
I usually say just split it. I'm terrible with math and know from working as a waitress/bartender that it's annoying when everyone requests separate checks.
ESPNgirl ESPNgirl 9 years
I like to split things separately +/- a couple of bucks. The reason being is as people have mentioned, if the person I'm with has downed 2 $10 drinks, I don't want to pay for them if all I had was water! At the same time, If I order a $20 meal and my friend orders an appetizer that only costs $7, I don't want them having to pay for 1/2 of my expensive meal, either! Most of the time I do go out to dinner we just switch off on the bill, so I don't do this often, but when in a big group, we definitely each just pay for our own separately...living in NYC, we can't afford not to ;)
pinkandgreenj pinkandgreenj 9 years
It depends for me. I have friends who try to take advantage of the fact that my hubby and I are lawyers and they think we make the "big bucks." What they don't know is that I am stacked with student loans that I am trying to pay down quickly and saving for my first house that costs more than some people's dream house- thank you big city prices! Plus, I don't drink. It isn't right when people order 4-5 drinks at $10 a pop and then I should pay for it? No. If its one or two, that is one thing, though. I am usually just a straight down the middle, even when it costs me a lot more. I am willing to do double what I would have to pay, but triple and quadruple is where I draw the line. Well, except when I pick up the check altogether, which is a whole other story. Wow, that was longwinded!
swwonder swwonder 9 years
Me and my friends always pay separately, we just always do it out of habit. But we're happy to lend money if someone is short.
ebbiebright ebbiebright 9 years
what is the big deal with just getting seperate checks it's not that hard. why should someone else have to pay for your food?
Keri1 Keri1 9 years
depends who iam with and what the occasion is. Keri
lms lms 9 years
It depends on the group and whether people are ordering individual dishes or if they are sharing food items(like Chinese food). If it is shared food then it is okay to split the bill evenly. However, if it is individual entrees, I do not think it is cheap to pay your own amount only. I don't see why someone else should have to pay more than what they ordered b/c I ordered something expensive. Also, I don't think I should have to pay for items that I did not order. As someone mentioned above, they do not drink and they should not have to pay for multiple alcoholic beverages. I totally agree with that line of thinking.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
this doesn't come up for me anymore. i usually have people going out of their way to pay the bill "it's my turn" "no you paid last time! it's my turn". if i don't want to get into all that i just tell the wait staff up front that i m paying and that settles it. years ago i had one friend who never had money. like a bad joke she always forgot her wallet, was short this week, whatever. finally people got sick of it and stopped including her. when it starts to feel like a person is taking advantage they probably are.
MrsJigglesworth MrsJigglesworth 9 years
not like that sweet c! :rotfl: definitely round up.
rubialala rubialala 9 years
I either pay for whoever I'm with or split the bill. Who cares who ate or drank how much?!?
cgmaetc cgmaetc 9 years
I don't ask for a separate check because I can't afford to eat out. I ask for several reasons: 1. I don't drink. I'm not paying for everyone to imbibe. 2. I'm not a big eater... I'm usually stuffed after a small salad, so I usually order much less than others. 3. I can usually write off my meals, so a separate check doubles as an IRS document. 4. I'm a BIG tipper. Most people give me grief about it, so it just saves arguing about what to tip when I tip on my portion. I hate it when you put in yours plus extra for the tip, and then bill comes to exactly what's due with no tip. That means someone put in way less than they were supposed to. Bad form. I have friends who love to split the bill evenly simply because they order a lot for food and booze and end up paying less. Those are the real cheapskates. And what about the folks who only order a salad but pick off your plate or at the sppetizers, then don't want to chip in for them? I hate them! -the ceeg
tara2109 tara2109 9 years
It depends on the situation, if there's a lot of us we usually split the bill between however many of us there are and then all just chuck in whatever loose change we have ( usually a minimum of £1 each so it adds up quickly) but if it's just say my friend and I going for lunch, we round up what we had to the nearest whole so if it was £8 I'll put down a tenner and then just go from there. People who are a bit tight really just bring the group down, or people who niggle over tips...
candy-apple candy-apple 9 years
i always split evenly, tho i really can't afford it. not because i'm especially generous: i'm just really really really bad at math. seriously. i'd rather not bother! hehe. sometimes, though, my friends do insist on treating me to dinner cos they know how rough times are. :)
tamberly tamberly 9 years
ok ok, i just read some other peoples comments and I wanted to point out that i dont split to the last penny, its more like i round up and pay up and it just works out. We all throw down for tip too of course.
tamberly tamberly 9 years
i guess it depends on who you are with and where ya go. Sometimes you just cant afford to spend too much but still want to have a nice time. I think its appropriate between friends, no matter how good they are, to pay their share. Personally at my age and point in my life, i dont have a large amount of spending means anyways and neither do my friends, so we choose appropriate places and whatnot.
SWEET-C9363 SWEET-C9363 9 years
hhahahahhahhaah u owe 53 dollars and 34 cents plus tip!!!!! hahhahahah
MrsJigglesworth MrsJigglesworth 9 years
:raspberry: :rotfl:
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