One of the best things about being married is feeling comfortable enough that you can tell your spouse everything. But Circle of Moms member Amber L. is one of several members who keep secrets. Amber's is that she humors her husband into thinking he's helping her when he's not:
“Don't get me wrong, I am grateful my husband cleans the house sometimes when he sees that I am busy or just because he wants to help out, but I would never tell him I sneak back into the kitchen and reload the dishwasher because he does it wrong. Am I the only one?”
Truth be told, there are some things it's best to keep to yourself when you're married. Here are six of the most common secrets moms keep from their husbands.
1. I Re-Do Your Chores
Tabitha F. is with Amber on her husband's lack of housekeeping prowess: “I fold my towels a certain way so that they fit on the shelf the way I like it. For nearly six months after we moved in together, I went behind his back and refolded them. I can’t tell him because if I did he would stop helping at all.”
2. Your Mother Really Annoys Me
In many cases, it's best to keep your true feelings about his mother under wraps, says Louise G. “She is your husband’s mother, and no matter what you feel he will be torn between the two of you."
3. The Kids Say Mean Things About You
Another taboo subject that deserves to be mum’s the word to spare your husband’s feelings is “when your child says he doesn’t like daddy,” says Rachel C. “My three-year-old son has started randomly saying mean things about my husband. He says ‘I don't love Daddy.’ It would completely crush my husband, who would feel like he must be a bad father who can't connect with his kids."
Sharon B. experienced the same thing with her three sons, and also kept the boys' feelings to herself. “My boys every now and then say they hate Phil (my husband). . . .The best thing I found was to not react in any way to it, so pretty much ignore it and not tell my husband.”
4. Our Child Did Something That Will Make You Mad
When a member named Ann's son got his girlfriend pregnant, she felt it best to keep it from her husband, at least initially:
“Don’t jump the gun,” she advises. “I told my son not to tell his father till he makes sure she has gotten past the three months to make sure every thing is going to be okay. “My husband is a strong Catholic man and loves his kids dearly, however this will kill him. My son wants to tell everyone and be a man about all this, however not sure what would be the right time.”
5. I Love the Kids More Than I Love You
Also not a good idea – even if it is true – to tell your husband that you love your children more than him, advises member Alma M. “I wouldn’t tell him that your children come first before him,” she says.
6. The Thrill is Gone
There comes a point in many marriages, says Gabriela S., when “You’re just not that into him, and that feeling is something you might want to keep hush-hush."
Jennifer S. agrees, but reassures that, "Every marriage goes through phases, and you might change your mind. See if it passes before you say anything.”
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