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Do You Want to Hold My Baby?

It's no surprise when a self-professed baby hater doesn't want to hold your bundle of joy, but what about other people — even fellow mothers? Whether they are accepting visitors at the hospital or need to run after an older child on the playground, women tend to hand off their offspring to each other. Some moms don't necessarily feel comfortable throwing open their arms to tend to a tot because they feel awkward doting on an infant for show.

Though I'm a baby lover, I will admit that teeny tiny infants make me a bit nervous. My kids entered the world with chubby cheeks and fleshy limbs that made them each an armful. I always take precaution and sit down before holding a preemie or five-pounder. Do you like holding babies?

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Sunflower-Sutra Sunflower-Sutra 6 years
I used to feel uncomfortable and awkward holding such a small baby, until i had one of my own. Now i love holding other people's babies! I guess i just needed practice!
clareberrys clareberrys 6 years
I love holding babies! Doesnt matter how young or small, if I am given the opportunity I will hold a baby. I have always been this way - since I was a kid even. I don't have a baby of my own yet, but I can't wait to someday!
Sarana Sarana 6 years
I'll hold the babies but if they fuss I give them back because I never really know what to do.
PinkUnicorn PinkUnicorn 6 years
I love babies but do not like holding other people's babies. It makes me insanely nervous. I also don't enjoy how hard people push it on you, "you MUST hold the baby!!!" I usually try to shut that down by informing them "I'm a dropper, so maybe don't give me the baby."
FrankiLee FrankiLee 6 years
kimmieb, I felt the same way. Before I had my daughter and I would hold someone else's baby, I would feel so awkward/nervous. I would constantly think "Oh my gosh, am I not going to be a good mother?" And then when I was handed my own daughter, it was a totally different feeling. It was like I had been holding her all of my life. I feel comfortable with my daughter, but I prefer to coo at/talk with/smile at other people's children. I get nervous with other babies!
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 6 years
I don't enjoy holding other people's babies just for the sake of holding a baby. My friends actually used to joke about this because I never wanted to hold any of their babies. I felt instantly comfortable holding my own baby, but I still feel awkward when other people hand me their infants.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 6 years
I love holding babies, doesn't matter how old they are. They are just too darn cute to resist.
skigurl skigurl 6 years
i agree with lil, i love babies but older more self-sufficient (ie: can hold their own head up) babies are way more comfortable for me...i get very nervous about holding infants too
Danni99 Danni99 6 years
I prefer not to hold other people's babies. I'll lean over a stroller and coo appropriately, and I'll hold a friend's baby if pressed, but I feel no compelling urge to hold them. I love my own babies more than my own life, and consider myself to be completely 100% maternal. Holding babies doesn't make a woman maternal, nor does it fulfill some gender based instinct. It merely passes a newly hatched kid around to a bunch of people who aren't his mom-dad-close family for no purpose at all. My youngest is 18 days old today and no, I don't encourage people to hold him. Family? Sure. Everyone else? No thanks.
Danni99 Danni99 6 years
I prefer not to hold other people's babies. I'll lean over a stroller and coo appropriately, and I'll hold a friend's baby if pressed, but I feel no compelling urge to hold them. I love my own babies more than my own life, and consider myself to be completely 100% maternal. Holding babies doesn't make a woman maternal, nor does it fulfill some gender based instinct. It merely passes a newly hatched kid around to a bunch of people who aren't his mom-dad-close family for no purpose at all. My youngest is 18 days old today and no, I don't encourage people to hold him. Family? Sure. Everyone else? No thanks.
cheersdarlin916 cheersdarlin916 6 years
I love holding babies. I always have but I agree with the 2nd posting, if the baby fusses I always offer to give it back and with my own kids I kinda demand to have the baby given back to me. I will even take the baby for my husband because I get so nervous when my baby cries and I know I am the one it needs (I have the working boobs after all).
Chrstne Chrstne 6 years
I always get nervous holding babies. They are so fragile.
starbucks2 starbucks2 6 years
I'm 39 weeks along right now and needed to be in the hospital last weekend. The woman I was sharing a room with had just given birth and asked me to hand her babe over to her because she couldn't really move. I was sooo nervous. That baby was tiny! Hope I'll be more comfortable with my own ;) I'd rather hold a toddler...
sham28 sham28 6 years
Holding babies makes me happy. :)
kia kia 6 years
To hold a baby just for the sake of holding a baby seems weird to me. I love holding my nieces when I am helping to take care of them, or to give their mom's a break. Other than that I am not a fan. I also need to wash my hands first before I start toting a wee one around. That could add to my aversion if there is not a convenient sink with soap nearby.
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