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Effective Discipline For Children

Does Discipline Send Underlying Messages About Love?

Disciplining a child is one of the toughest parts of parenting. Spanking, time-outs, and positive reinforcement all have their supporters and detractors, but do they all send subliminal messages to our lil ones about our love for them?

Recently, two of TV's popular authorities on the issue — Dr. Phil and Supernanny's Jo Frost — made strong arguments for positive reinforcement. They both agree that children seek praise and attention from their parents and by denying them those feelings until they act appropriately, they will learn right from wrong. Opposite their philosophies, author Alfie Kohn supports a program of unconditional love and suggests that regardless of the type of discipline used, punishing youngsters shows them that they aren't loved by their parents. Rather than taking away privileges and toys, instituting time-outs, or spanking, parents should take the time to work through the issue with their offspring, demonstrating that they love their wee ones regardless of how they behave.

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sassy_chick sassy_chick 6 years
Discipline is already a nightmare at school because parents refuse to tell their children that doing something isn't ok. Sometimes you need to be told "NO!" when you're reaching for the hot pan or hitting your sibling. Explanations can happen after it's stopped. Also, kids won't respond to conversations only. At least most won't. Not today, anyway.
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