Leading up to my due date, friends asked which hospital we were going to and if I would have my phone so they could come visit and meet the newest member of our family. I was all for it until my husband put the kabash on it.
We really did not see eye to eye on hospital visits. He thought that those first few days should be spent entirely alone with just us and the baby. I love his sensitive and thoughtful side, but I had always imagined family members and friends flooding the room with balloons, flowers and teddy bears.
So I was really bummed when we couldn't come to an agreement. I fought my point of view stating that my whole family always ran to the bedside of family newborns. Since a teary pregnant wife trumps a sensitive husband, I finally got my way. Well at least partially. Friends were banned from the hospital, but family was welcomed by all three sets of our open arms.
In retrospect, I think my husband was right about keeping it small. I'm glad we had our family there, but think it might have been exhausting to have more than that. It's a three ring circus at the hospital with lactation consultants, nurses, doctors, birth certificate people and nursing bra specialists. Most importantly, it gave us time to get to know our lil one before having to share her with the rest of the world.
How do you feel about visitors after giving birth?