Melana D. is at her wit's end. Her daughter doesn't listen to her, and she says, "I feel I have tried almost everything and nothing seems to work. How did the rest of you get your kid/s to listen? I need some advise before I lose it."
Do you find yourself yelling at your kids, while your blood pressure rises because they won’t listen? You just want them to clean up their toys, go potty, put dishes in the sink, get dressed... I mean really, put the shoes on, clean your toys, WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?!?!?!?!?!?!?
Okay, here is the quick solution and it only involves one idea: Being stuck.
What is "Being Stuck?"
When your child, for example, will not put their shoes on, they are stuck. When your child refuses to clean up, they are stuck. When your child won’t brush their teeth, they are stuck. What that means is that until they can complete the task at hand, they cannot move on to another activity.
Your child refuses to take a bath? They are stuck. They cannot move on to another activity until they bathe. There is no need to yell, fight or bribe. You state what’s going on; “Until you take a bath (clean up, put shoes on...), you are stuck. You cannot move on to another activity until you have finished this one. When you have taken your bath and get unstuck you may play with something else (go outside, watch a movie.....), but until then you are stuck. You are in control of your day/evening and you can get yourself UNstuck anytime that you want to.”
Grab a book if you want to, go get some things done if you can. Your child will quickly realize that you mean business.
The life lesson? You are responsible for your actions. You make a mess, you clean it up. You do not put your shoes on, you can not go to the park. You do not put your dishes in the sink, you cannot come to family T.V. time.
Parents, your reward is the calm feeling of not having to yell and fight. Hey, we have all been stuck at one point or another. It’s all a part of life and learning what it means to be a part of a community.
Brandi Davis is a professional Parenting Coach with a Bachelors of Science in Child Development and Family Studies, and 14 years of teaching experience. Her book, O.K. I’m A Parent Now What? is a compilation of articles touching on a myriad of child rearing topics such as parent-child communication, quick dinners, tantrums, how to get your kids to listen, productive discipline and much more, and will help parents find new ways to get what they need accomplished without all of the tantrums and power struggles that create conflicts within the family.
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