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How Much Say Man Has in Baby Decision

What Women Said About a Man's Place in the Baby Decision

Does a guy have equal say when it comes to having a bebe? It takes a willing man to create a child, but since a woman carries and births the baby, we asked our readers if it was ultimately her decision. Women chimed in with strong opinions:

  • "Of course he has a say. It's his sperm, and he's going to have to pay for it for the next 18 years, whether he raises it or not. I'm disgusted that this is even a question." — Studio 16
  • "Well, he should have a say because it's his sperm, but in reality, it does come down to the woman's decision, I believe" — kurniakasih
  • "It should be equal, but in reality there has to be a tiebreaker, and that ends up being the woman. If my husband wanted a baby but I didn't, obviously it would be impossible for him to get what he wanted because I am in control of my body (birth control, etc.), and my body is necessary to carry and birth the child." — lawchick
  • "If either partner says it's not the right time to have a baby; then it's not." — lickety split
  • "Our whole goal with women's rights was to be equal with men. And in a lot of cases including the right to choose when, how, why to have a baby, we have more rights then they do now! I, as a woman and a mom, feel like the decision to have or keep a child should always be an equal decision. Yes I am the one who gets pregnant and I birth them. But, It would never have happened if my husband was not involved. I believe in equal rights not one more than the other." — Anonymous

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juicebox07 juicebox07 6 years
I totally agree with lawchick's comment.
PiNkY-PiNk PiNkY-PiNk 6 years
I agree with alot of them. But I feel as though if I didn't want a baby and ended up having one anyway, i'd be so resentful. Because i'd carry it for 9 months, my whole life would be interrupted, my body would change, and my relationship would change, so I should have the final say. In the end, whether it's right or wrong, I think the woman ends up having more of a decision.
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