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How to Withstand the Parenting Sex Slump

How to Withstand the Parenting Sex Slump

After bringing home baby, it is expected that the romantic life you once had with your spouse takes a backseat to your new life. 

But what does it mean when that that baby gets older, two more babies are born, and those babies also begin growing...but your romantic life seems to still be taking a backseat to your current life?

Those late night pre-baby rendezvouses that happened more often than just late at night become a distant thought, especially at bedtime, when the warm embrace of your pillow and blanket is all you really need. Sleep. And lots of it.

Sometimes you wonder what keeps your marriage together when you know it is definitely not the good sex life you once had. Is it just luck or is there something more?

More often than not, the words you read above describe my life to a T. Planning to start a family early on in our marriage and deciding to have kids close together in age hasn't always made life easy. Juggling work, home, kids, and romance becomes a balancing act. A balancing act that is almost as easy as spinning plates on a pole without any crashing to the floor.

The only thing that makes any sense is starting out with a solid foundation.

A marriage based on a solid foundation can withstand any test, even becoming parents to three kids in less than three years. And because of this solid foundation, sometimes a late night rendezvous can be postponed longer than one would like.

When all is said and done, at the end of a busy day, sometimes the best kind of reconnecting is simply sitting on the couch, side by side, watching a little television and enjoying each others' easy company. Or turning out the lights, crawling into bed, and whispering an “I love you” as you both drift off to sleep. And maybe (just maybe) tomorrow night things will heat up instead.

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DebHorne DebHorne 4 years
My hubby and I have recently had a baby, she is now 16weeks. We also have 5 other children between 5 and 20yrs. We try to have sex every morning and every night...and it's getting better, I was scared the first time when baby was about 6 weeks so we took things slow, and not every day... and each time I became more relaxed and comfortable (took about 8weeks to be relaxed and not put having sex off to being too tired. We started having sex twice a day about 2 weeks ago)... I have found i am more creative, my husband and I laugh alot more together and spend quality time with our baby and with the other kids and our baby together. life is more complete somehow, I don't understand it, but making time to have sex, is now a time I'm looking forward to moslty and I actually sleep better and in the morning after sex I am more creative and diligent with what needs to be done around the home, and with the kids. I haven't read any of the other comments, only the title and some of the article... gotta go make dinner lol.
NatalieBrowne99647 NatalieBrowne99647 4 years
Come on guys, sleep, tv, kids = excuses, find the time or your spouses may look elsewhere for some attention. With two kids under 3 pregnant again, running a business, we still find the time up to 3 times a week, if i went one month we would both be very grumpy! Get a babysitter and go out, text him rauncy stuff during the day to let him know you want him. He'll be up to it, guys just won't choose sleep over it ever period!
RobinNett RobinNett 4 years
I'm with you Molly Pankow. Real advice would have been nice.
JasmineMarreroPratt JasmineMarreroPratt 4 years
Our second child is 2 months old and her sister is 2. We were out of town for his brother's wedding where my husband was the best man. Good god he looked so hot in his tux and he thought I looked really good in my dress, I was totally game for a romp, but unfortunately we left the reception a little early because our daughter was exhausted and we had no one to watch them.:(....a totally missed opportunity LOL
ChristyPatton1947 ChristyPatton1947 4 years
I am reading "Sexperiment" and so far it is awsome. I am trying to keep things fresh and loving because like most of you we to have 4 kids and they are all in sports and my husband and I work opposite shifts. I like my skleep and am tired alot and my husband doesnt understand but I am trying to make it better for both of us.
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