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Mommy Dearest: I Don't Like My Child's Best Friend

Mommy Dearest –

I know it is terrible to say, but I don't like my daughter's best friend. She is pushy and manipulative and seems to bring out the worst in my child. When the girls are together, all I get is sass from my child and if they have been playing together I can see a change in my daughter's entire attitude. I would stop scheduling play dates with her but I a) know it would devastate my child and, b) would be hard to enforce because they are in the same class. Do you have any advice for me?

– Baffled by Best Friend

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Dear Baffled by Best Friend –

Depending on your child's age, her best friend could be the "flavor of the week" and your problem could easily be solved as she moves on. If, however, that isn't the case, you may want to speak to your daughter's school to see if the tots can be placed in separate classes. I would also strongly encourage her to play with other kids by arranging a full schedule of playdates. Finally, you need to be sure to point out bad behavior to your daughter to ensure that she isn't repeating it. A combination of these suggestions should make for a more manageable relationship.

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MissSushi MissSushi 5 years
I was going to suggest the same thing as lickety. You can't just ban a friend like that at that age, but you can take control of the situations and use it as a learning process.
lickety-split lickety-split 5 years
change your daughters class because you don't like this girl? i hate to break it to you, but this is the first of MANY things your child will choose that you won't like. its your job as an adult to set limits. if you don't have instructional control over your own child when she has a friend over; that's on YOU, not the other child. after the next playdate, if there is an incident you shoukd tell your daughter, "there were some things that happened during the play date today that i didn't like. this is what they were....if it happens next time, if there is rudeness or sassy talk, you won't be having any playdates for 2 weeks while we work on manners rather than play. do you understand?" will take at most 2 times.
skigurl skigurl 5 years
Agree with would be hard to completely cut her off from this friend, but you can do things to make her behaviour better and manage the friendship a little. And I'm willing to assume that they won't be best friends forever!
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