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Is Jon Gosselin Having a Third Life Crisis?

Are Parents Entitled to Quarter, Third, or Midlife Crises?

Everyone likes their freedom and moms and dads are no different, but once you make the decision to have a child is it ever appropriate to act like one? Life's milestones — turning 25, 30, or 50, braving marriage, starting a family, or changing careers — affect people differently. Some adapt and excel to their situations while others get the urge to break free.

The big announcement episode of Jon and Kate Plus 8 featured the 32-year-old father of eight sporting diamond earrings and a rather upbeat attitude toward the next chapter of his life. The soon-to-be divorced daddy who we used to watch change diapers and corral his kids, has been spotted smoking, hanging out at rural nightclubs with 20-somethings, and looking for a pricey bachelor pad in NYC as of late.

While Jon Gosselin is just one example (and not to say his actions are adversely affecting his children), do you think parents have a right to indulge in extended periods of "me time" while they are raising kids?

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MissSushi MissSushi 6 years
I think they're both pretty ridiculous these days. I dont like either of them, at all. Shes controlling and bitchy, and hes lazy and checked out of his relationship/family YEARS ago, but they both are to blame and they both made their beds. You cant just blame one or the other, its both of their fault. He's not even the one who filed for divorce.. she did, so how is he abandoning his family? Get a grip, theyre both acting like irresponsible 20 year olds, not referring to the divorce, just their actions
mhg mhg 6 years
i think he looks ridiculous.
mhg mhg 6 years
i think he looks ridiculous.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years
I agree with what others have said. Parents are allowed to have a mid-life crisis to some extent. If they can reasonably afford it, I see no problem with a father giving his child his old Camry to drive and buying himself a vintage Mustang. Or with a stay-at-home mother with school-aged children going back to school during the day. (Sorry to chose such gender-normative examples; they are the first ones that came to mind!) I realize those two examples are pretty different, but in both cases, the parents are indulging a little bit and doing what they want to do without hurting their children, which I think is the key.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years
I agree with what others have said. Parents are allowed to have a mid-life crisis to some extent. If they can reasonably afford it, I see no problem with a father giving his child his old Camry to drive and buying himself a vintage Mustang. Or with a stay-at-home mother with school-aged children going back to school during the day. (Sorry to chose such gender-normative examples; they are the first ones that came to mind!) I realize those two examples are pretty different, but in both cases, the parents are indulging a little bit and doing what they want to do <b>without</b> hurting their children, which I think is the key.
queenegg queenegg 6 years
Everyone can have their crisis. It's going to happen, but doing something crazy which is harmful to the family is not acceptable. Just because a person is a parent doesn't mean that they don't have a life, it just means that their me time is fewer and farther between.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 6 years
Not having a childhood, or the freedom to do whatever the F you wanted as a young adult is no excuse to suddenly abandon your family and have a Mid life crisis. Most of the men and women that do this, feel cheated somehow and then in turn they end up CHEATING thier own children and the cycle goes on and on. Its selfish and its wrong.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 6 years
Not having a childhood, or the freedom to do whatever the F you wanted as a young adult is no excuse to suddenly abandon your family and have a Mid life crisis. Most of the men and women that do this, feel cheated somehow and then in turn they end up CHEATING thier own children and the cycle goes on and on. Its selfish and its wrong.
Chrstne Chrstne 6 years
Anyone is entitled to a crisis. Things happen. Parents? Yes, but as a daughter of a parent who completely changed and freaked out at 40, and the STB daughter-in-law of a man who did the same at 40, I can say that's it's rough going if you are young. My dad flipped when I was 11, all of the sudden he was going skydiving, bought a motorcycle, going to bars all the time, hanging around teenagers, doing drugs, the works. I did not see his old age (and not even that old) as an excuse to completely turn your life into this wannabe 20 again bullsh*t saga. I was appalled at my fathers behavior. Absolutely appalled in how he treated his family and how he went from being an okay person to a guy I was embarrassed to know, a guy that started to abuse us, and a guy that apparently dated really young girls if at 15 I was mistaken for his girlfriend! Indulge in all the me time you want as long as it isn't trashy, damaging or desperate. Be an example for your children. Don't teach them to make mistakes like get someone pregnant, marry them and then decide you don't want that too much so then you go off, pierce your ears, get a motorcycle, and then god knows what.
Chrstne Chrstne 6 years
Anyone is entitled to a crisis. Things happen. Parents? Yes, but as a daughter of a parent who completely changed and freaked out at 40, and the STB daughter-in-law of a man who did the same at 40, I can say that's it's rough going if you are young. My dad flipped when I was 11, all of the sudden he was going skydiving, bought a motorcycle, going to bars all the time, hanging around teenagers, doing drugs, the works. I did not see his old age (and not even that old) as an excuse to completely turn your life into this wannabe 20 again bullsh*t saga. I was appalled at my fathers behavior. Absolutely appalled in how he treated his family and how he went from being an okay person to a guy I was embarrassed to know, a guy that started to abuse us, and a guy that apparently dated really young girls if at 15 I was mistaken for his girlfriend! Indulge in all the me time you want as long as it isn't trashy, damaging or desperate. Be an example for your children. Don't teach them to make mistakes like get someone pregnant, marry them and then decide you don't want that too much so then you go off, pierce your ears, get a motorcycle, and then god knows what.
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