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Kelly Rutherford Didn't Notify Ex Until Baby Was Born

Does a Dad Deserve to Know That His Baby Is Being Born?

Does daddy deserve to know mama is headed to the delivery room? Due to relationship strains, many moms-to-be opt to labor without their ex present. That may have been the case earlier this week with actress Kelly Rutherford. The father of her two children —Hermes, 2, and baby Helena — Daniel Giersch issued this statement.

I was never informed by Kelly about the birth of our daughter, nor was I invited to attend. In fact, I found out about it through Internet reports like everyone else. Although this sickens me, I am of course overjoyed that our baby was born healthy. I would've wanted nothing more than to hold our newborn daughter for a few moments, and I only seek to coparent both our children responsibly and with love.

Giersch said he was supposed to be informed by text or phone. Do you think a father should be informed that his offspring is on the way?

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kikidawn kikidawn 7 years
I think it depends on the couple and the situation, but in most situations yes the father deserves to know that she is in labor and that the baby was born. He does not have a right to go in the delivery room though.
masonsmama masonsmama 7 years
This is just sad for him - even if she decides later that this was not the right thing to do, there's no way to get this moment back.
Triste3030 Triste3030 7 years
Of course a father deserves to know!
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 7 years
It really depends. If the guy is a abusive then he doesn't, but if the couple just decided not to be together anymore and aren't friends then he does deserve to go to the hospital and wait.
smileyface smileyface 7 years
I agree with most people who have already posted. Even if he were not going to be allowed in the room, he should have at least been told she was in labor and kept updated on everything as the labor progressed. What if something had gone wrong during delivery? As much as they may hate each other its still his child and he needs to be informed. I also agree that we do not know the real situation and what really happened so we can't judge their particular situation. But in general when the parents are not together at the time of the birth I believe that the father needs to be informed and kept aware of what is going on before anyone else knows.
smileyface smileyface 7 years
I agree with most people who have already posted.Even if he were not going to be allowed in the room, he should have at least been told she was in labor and kept updated on everything as the labor progressed. What if something had gone wrong during delivery? As much as they may hate each other its still his child and he needs to be informed.I also agree that we do not know the real situation and what really happened so we can't judge their particular situation. But in general when the parents are not together at the time of the birth I believe that the father needs to be informed and kept aware of what is going on before anyone else knows.
mhg mhg 7 years
i think they are a disaster too. if it's true, it's pathetic to use your child as a means by which to hurt your ex...again, obviously i'm not privy to the particulars of their situation, but, missing an event like the birth of your child is kind of significant.
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
boohoo to him. he has the rest of the child's life to be there. he doesn't get to go to the delivery room and see her crotch and her pain. and he also didn't carry the baby for 9 months, won't breast feed the baby or have the life long physical effects of having carried the child. sometimes life works out differently than we had planned and we roll with it. honestly, these 2 are a disaster as far as co-parenting. i can't believe they were together long enough to create 2 children.
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
boohoo to him. he has the rest of the child's life to be there. he doesn't get to go to the delivery room and see her crotch and her pain. and he also didn't carry the baby for 9 months, won't breast feed the baby or have the life long physical effects of having carried the child. sometimes life works out differently than we had planned and we roll with it.honestly, these 2 are a disaster as far as co-parenting. i can't believe they were together long enough to create 2 children.
pharm_chick pharm_chick 7 years
he doesnt have to be in the actual delivery room, but its important that he at least knows before everyone.
kty kty 7 years
her rep said that the doctors order no one in the labor room but as soon as the baby was born he was called...so i think that since none of us really know the real story we shouldn't judge.these twos have been bashing each other non stop,calling the other unfit and all....she'd said some pretty mean things about him but so does he.now he's trying in my opinion to get people on his side since their are in a bitter custody battle.
xtinabeena xtinabeena 7 years
totally depends on the situation.
Chouette4u Chouette4u 7 years
Unless you honestly fear for your safety or the safety of your baby by telling him, it's really immature to let the father of your baby find out about the birth through the internet or a birth announcement.
PiNkY-PiNk PiNkY-PiNk 7 years
most men, yes. a select few, I don't think so.
arrowstraite arrowstraite 7 years
Absolutely.
arrowstraite arrowstraite 7 years
Absolutely.
schnappycat schnappycat 7 years
Unless the father is an imminent threat to the family, it's pretty horrible for him to find out in a birth announcement or via the internet. It's one thing to keep him from being in the room during the birth, but for him to not be notified first is very sad.
cherrygirl143 cherrygirl143 7 years
No matter what, the father at least should know. Just because they are split, what gives her the right to take that joy away from him?
bluepuppybites bluepuppybites 7 years
I didn't vote. It really depends on the relationship at the time. If your ex's presence stresses you out, you don't want him/her there while you are in labor.
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