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Mommy Dearest: Give a Second Hand Gift at Shower?

Mommy Dearest,

I've got a baby shower dilemma. My cousin's baby shower is in two weeks and I'm pretty close to her. She's not a picky person, and often shops at second hand stores. I'm getting her a bunch of stuff, but considered going to the second hand store for the cradle she wants. It costs $500 for a new one, but this reputable store has it for $150. I mentioned this to a friend who told me that she felt a second hand gift was very tacky and while it'd be ok to give it to my cousin before or after the shower, it was inappropriate as a shower gift. I know my cousin would appreciate it, and was going to use the cradle as the box for the other gifts. What do you think?

— Shopping at Second Hand Store

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Shopping at Second Hand Store,

It sounds like you know your cousin best and since she already shops at second hand stores, I don't see anything tacky about you buying her the cradle there as long as it's in good structural condition for the baby's safety. The idea of using it as a box for additional goodies sounds like a darling presentation for a generous gift. If your cousin wants a brand new cradle for her child, she can always spring for one herself. Let's let the lilsugar readers weigh in.

— Mommy Dearest

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Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 7 years
As long as it is safe then there is no problem. My cousin has 6 kids and after the third she started getting second hand stuff. For her twins people gave her a bunch of baby clothes (not at the shower because they couldn't go, but it was still a gift) and a walker and bouncer. Just make sure that everything is safe and clean. The bouncer my cousin got was very dirty when it was given to hear and she got it cleaned, but that is rude. Now it is always dirty from the babies.
LuvLeoDiCaprio LuvLeoDiCaprio 7 years
Great thank you!
LuvLeoDiCaprio LuvLeoDiCaprio 7 years
Great thank you!
Moms Moms 7 years
LuvLeoDiCaprio — here's the link: http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?DeptID=57955&CatID=57955&Grptyp=PRD&ItemId=15559a5&cmRef=http://www.jcpenney.com/products/C57955.jsp
LuvLeoDiCaprio LuvLeoDiCaprio 7 years
Lil sugar ..that's a real nice bassinet , where could I find it?
alikat07 alikat07 7 years
I'd get it for her, but just make sure its returnable in case she surprises you. However, since you know her so well, I doubt she'd have an issue with the fact it is second hand - and its a generous gift!
psterling psterling 7 years
Chances are, nobody else is going to get her that cradle so she'll appreciate it so much, no matter where you got it! Especially if she's in the habit of frequently thrift stores already. I think its ok.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
i tend to agree that while it's a nice gesture, may be more appropriate for before or after the shower....BUT you know your cousin best and you know the others who will be in attendance and if you're comfortable with it, then go for it
Greggie Greggie 7 years
I think it's a wonderful idea as well.
roxtarchic roxtarchic 7 years
this is your COUSIN... not your friends cousin. i think it's a WONDERFUL GIFT and knowing that she loves it, and using it as the presentation for even MORE gifts (and it's $150) i really think it's thoughtful and sweet... and SMART of you. and as someone who has thrift & handmedown shopped for my OWN child... i would LOVE it. if the cradle has a mattress or a mattress pad, just make sure you clean it (w/a green cleaner) and seriously... it's a lovely thought & very generous. when it comes time for your friends shower, give her a gift card ;) heheh
atlasburped atlasburped 7 years
I agree with anniekim. Safety should be #1...but other than that hey I don't see why not. 500 bucks for a cradle in the midst of a economic crisis like this...ummm...yeah DEF wouldn't expect any of my peeps to get me one. I'd be grateful for the second hand...but make sure its 100% safe!
Mykie7 Mykie7 7 years
annie, that's what I was thinking too! In this economy any way you can save money (While being safe of course) is the way to go.
anniekim anniekim 7 years
At $150 this is still a very generous gift. As long as it is safe, go for it.
mother2 mother2 7 years
I agree with Mommy Dearest, if anything, what an adorable presentation! And if your cousin springs for the new one, she can continue to the one you give her as storage in her nursery. I say go for it! : )
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