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Mommy Dearest: What Should My Step-Kids Call Me?

Mommy Dearest,

My husband and I have been married for two years. He has three sons from a previous marriage and they spend half of the time living with us. In the three years that I have known them, we have become so close that people often mistake me for their mother. The boys call me by my first name, but now that we are family should they refer to me as "mom" or "step-mom"? We don't plan on having any more children.

— What Should My Step-Kids Call Me

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What Should My Step-Kids Call Me,

It sounds like you and your stepchildren have a great rapport and that they are comfortable calling you by your name. If you prefer another title, ask your husband for his opinion. Since the children spend half their time with their mother, they may not feel comfortable referring to you as "mom" too. Divorce, remarriage and accepting new family members can be hard on children so you may even consider waiting for them to initiate any type of conversation concerning this. Let's see if any lilsugar readers want to chime in.

— Mommy Dearest

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