According to this post in the UK’s The Telegraph, more babies are born out of wedlock each year.
If all of this unmarried procreating continues, most children will be born out of wedlock as early as 2016. This may or may not seem to be a startling bit of news to you, but according to conservatives, the steady decline of marriage will lead to the breakdown of the family in general.
Unmarried couples starting families together seems to be the norm. Being married with children almost feels like being in the minority.
This is my story: just six months before I was about to graduate from college, I discovered I was pregnant with my first child. I had no desire to become another statistic — an unmarried Latina having a baby with a man who was already an unmarried father. The realization stung — I didn’t want to be someone’s “baby mama.”
You may not feel like the "piece of paper" declaring marriage is vital to your relationship. Even though I came from a divorced home and I wasn’t particularly religious, marriage was something important to me. It actually surprised me just how important it was. But I wanted the respect and honor traditionally extended toward a wife. I didn’t want to be somebody’s girl, woman, girlfriend, significant other, partner, or baby mama.
I wanted wife status.
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I graduated college and then got married a month later — eight months pregnant. A bride with a belly. Not exactly the way I always envisioned. This bride had to be fitted for her dress the week of her wedding (my stomach was growing at an alarming rate) and I walked down the aisle in what were essentially beaded slippers–my swollen feet couldn’t fit in anything else.
If I could go back and change things, I would have gotten married first. No one wants to be a pregnant bride. Still, I have no regrets. My wedding was sweet and lovely and I’m so glad my husband and I made that commitment to one another.
Want to hear something funny? I wanted to have the same last name as my children. In the hospital with my first child, I was a newly minted wife of almost sixty days, and I cringed over the fact that all of my medical information was still registered under my maiden name. My newborn and I had different last names on our ID bracelets. Such a small thing but I was bummed about it.
My husband and I will celebrate our 16th wedding anniversary this Friday. It’s important that my children understand the importance of our commitment as husband and wife as well — it speaks of the love and care we have for them.
If you are a parent, how important to you is being married?