Mommy Dearest —
My 7-year-old daughter is begging me to allow her to get her ears pierced, and I don't think she is ready. Many of her friends have already gone through the "punch," and each time she sees another one with some glitter in her earlobe, I get an earful of reasons she should be allowed to have it done. I didn't bejewel my own ears until I was 10 years old and I'd like to keep it that way for my daughter. Any advice?
— Mama With a Piercing Problem
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Dear Mama With a Piercing Problem,
It sounds to me like you are facing two issues here. First is a very common one — the "but my friends are all doing it" syndrome. That's where good parenting comes in and as her mother, you must remind your daughter that your home comes with its own boundaries and as the mom, it is your job to establish and enforce them.
The second issue is your reasoning for keeping her ears free of holes. Every family is entitled to making their own rules and if 10 years old is your house rule, so be it. I can understand a mother wanting her child be mature enough to handle the responsibility of caring for her own ears after the procedure, as well as being old enough to care for her new jewelry. As the mother of sons, I must admit that I don't have much experience here, but I'll open it up to our readers to chime in on what they've found to be the right age.
— Mommy Dearest